This page is set aside for referral books for alienated family members as well as professionals who work with alienated family members. These books were authored by the top experts. There is much knowledge, information and support for those going through the "hell on earth called alienation". Most of these books here also will be excellent tools of those in the professional world of alienation. Books will be added here on a regular basis so please visit it often. We are trying to give you all the help possible through this horrible time. Encourage others to visit this page as well as the other pages in helping alienated family members and also invite professionals to
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The Unveiling: A Mother's Reflection on Murder, Grief, and Trial Life Hardcover – September 20, 2022
by Ruth Markel (Author)
HardcoverRuth Markel’s tenacious fight for justice on behalf of the murder of her son, Dan Markel, and the struggle to be legally reunited with her grandchildren.
Ruth Markel is the mother of the late Dan Markel, a noted law professor who was murdered in Tallahassee, Florida in 2014.
In The Unveiling, she describes her experiences since the day of Dan’s death from several distinct perspectives:
by Ruth Markel (Author)
HardcoverRuth Markel’s tenacious fight for justice on behalf of the murder of her son, Dan Markel, and the struggle to be legally reunited with her grandchildren.
Ruth Markel is the mother of the late Dan Markel, a noted law professor who was murdered in Tallahassee, Florida in 2014.
In The Unveiling, she describes her experiences since the day of Dan’s death from several distinct perspectives:
- As a devastated mother with the unique human perspective of becoming a homicide survivor and victim.
- As a woman whose attempts to achieve normalcy and live a healthy life are continually interrupted by painful reminders, a rollercoaster of hearings, frequently changing trial dates, verdicts, and appeals.
- As an engaged citizen using what she has learned to help other victims of homicide and violent crimes recover from trauma and begin an optimistic outlook on life.
- As an insider who shows how our collective network of family, friends, and experts—including a murder coach—have helped her family remain involved, motivated, and hopeful.
- As a grandmother who had not been allowed to see her grandchildren in many years, she used advocacy to inspire the Florida State Legislature to pass a grandparent visitation bill.
- And as an experienced author of nine books using the written word to effectively address the shift from grief to promise.
Myths and Lies about Dads 1st Edition, March 2023
by Linda Nielsen (Author)
by Linda Nielsen (Author)
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- Creating more gender equity in childcare and housework
- Reducing child abuse, post-partum depression, and fathers’ suicide rates
- Expanding mothers’ and fathers’ options at home and at work
- Reducing children’s academic, behavioral, and emotional problems
- Lessening the pressures of parenting for both parents
- Changing sexist policies and practices that hurt parents and children
- Improving the economic situations for parents and their children
A Son Is a Son Till He Gets a Wife: How Toxic Daughters-in-Law Destroy Families Paperback – June 1, 2012
by Anne Kathryn Killinger (Author)
I know this is a curious title, and people who have never experienced the rejection of a son at his wife's behest won't understand it. But those who have been through this experience--whose sons have married and turned against them as if they were dirt after all the years of love and care the parents gave them-will rejoice at finding this book and knowing they aren't alone. Actually, the desertion of parents by married sons is not uncommon. Would that it were! Almost every psychologist or counselor with whom I have talked knows of several instances in which it has happened. They speak of the great sorrow and agitation of the parents, mother and father alike, who can't understand why a child has turned against them. ANNE KATHRYN KILLINGER has been a concert pianist, a college professor, a Parisian model, and the wife of a widely known clergyman. She lived in Boston, New York, Los Angeles, Nashville, Birmingham, Paris, and Oxford, and near Washington, DC. She is also the author of An Inner Journey to Christmas and An Inner Journey to Easter, as well as the novels, Pendleton Farm and Rachel Remembers.
by Anne Kathryn Killinger (Author)
I know this is a curious title, and people who have never experienced the rejection of a son at his wife's behest won't understand it. But those who have been through this experience--whose sons have married and turned against them as if they were dirt after all the years of love and care the parents gave them-will rejoice at finding this book and knowing they aren't alone. Actually, the desertion of parents by married sons is not uncommon. Would that it were! Almost every psychologist or counselor with whom I have talked knows of several instances in which it has happened. They speak of the great sorrow and agitation of the parents, mother and father alike, who can't understand why a child has turned against them. ANNE KATHRYN KILLINGER has been a concert pianist, a college professor, a Parisian model, and the wife of a widely known clergyman. She lived in Boston, New York, Los Angeles, Nashville, Birmingham, Paris, and Oxford, and near Washington, DC. She is also the author of An Inner Journey to Christmas and An Inner Journey to Easter, as well as the novels, Pendleton Farm and Rachel Remembers.
From Poppy with Love: Letters from a Grandfather to the Grandchildren He Isn't Allowed to See Paperback – December 1, 2012
by John Killinger (Author)
When Anne Kathryn Killinger's A Son Is a Son Till He Gets a Wife: How Toxic Daughters-in-Law Destroy Families was published, it helped start a growing movement called Alienated Grandparents Anonymous. Now Anne's husband, John, has written this absorbing book of letters to their grandchildren in the hope that they will one day read it and understand more about the lives and dreams and personalities of the grandparents they were prevented from seeing. From Poppy, With Love is tender, thoughtful, wise, and loving, and will be of interest to many readers who have never had the problem that it deals with. John Killinger has been pastor of churches from New England to California and has taught at several seminaries and universities, including Princeton, Vanderbilt, and Chicago. He is the author of many books, including the well- known Bread for the Wilderness, Wine for the Journey and the novel, Maggie Bowles and the Mystery of the Marigold Turtle.
by John Killinger (Author)
When Anne Kathryn Killinger's A Son Is a Son Till He Gets a Wife: How Toxic Daughters-in-Law Destroy Families was published, it helped start a growing movement called Alienated Grandparents Anonymous. Now Anne's husband, John, has written this absorbing book of letters to their grandchildren in the hope that they will one day read it and understand more about the lives and dreams and personalities of the grandparents they were prevented from seeing. From Poppy, With Love is tender, thoughtful, wise, and loving, and will be of interest to many readers who have never had the problem that it deals with. John Killinger has been pastor of churches from New England to California and has taught at several seminaries and universities, including Princeton, Vanderbilt, and Chicago. He is the author of many books, including the well- known Bread for the Wilderness, Wine for the Journey and the novel, Maggie Bowles and the Mystery of the Marigold Turtle.
From Poppy with Love 2: More Letters from a Grandfather to the Grandchildren He Isn't Allowed to See
When John Killinger published From Poppy, with Love, a volume of letters for the grandchildren he isn’t allowed to visit, he thought he had provided all the information his grandchildren would need to understand their paternal grandparents and their feelings about things. He soon found that he missed writing to the grandchildren, however, so continued to jot down his thoughts. Before he knew it, he had another book-length collection of these letters.
In this second volume, he notes, he could touch on many things not dealt with in the first-new memories of their father as a child; musings on education; favorite TV programs; hearing from former first lady Barbara Bush; the death of their Great-uncle Jack, who was a vice-president of Sears; reflections on heaven and what it might be like; getting a new puppy named Toby; and enjoying another Halloween, Thanksgiving, and Christmas.
Even readers who haven’t had a problem getting to see their grandchildren will enjoy the naked sensitivity of these letters and the many subjects they touch upon. Collectively, they are about what it means to be deeply human and to truly care about one’s family.
$18.95 paperback, 213 pp.
All of the Poppy books are available from Amazon. Because it’s print-on-demand, Amazon does not keep the books in stock. People can still order the books; it will just take a while for them to be printed because of the current pandemic has lowered the number of folk able to work at the printers.
https://www.amazon.com/s?k=From+Poppy+with+Love&i=stripbooks&ref=nb_sb_noss
When John Killinger published From Poppy, with Love, a volume of letters for the grandchildren he isn’t allowed to visit, he thought he had provided all the information his grandchildren would need to understand their paternal grandparents and their feelings about things. He soon found that he missed writing to the grandchildren, however, so continued to jot down his thoughts. Before he knew it, he had another book-length collection of these letters.
In this second volume, he notes, he could touch on many things not dealt with in the first-new memories of their father as a child; musings on education; favorite TV programs; hearing from former first lady Barbara Bush; the death of their Great-uncle Jack, who was a vice-president of Sears; reflections on heaven and what it might be like; getting a new puppy named Toby; and enjoying another Halloween, Thanksgiving, and Christmas.
Even readers who haven’t had a problem getting to see their grandchildren will enjoy the naked sensitivity of these letters and the many subjects they touch upon. Collectively, they are about what it means to be deeply human and to truly care about one’s family.
$18.95 paperback, 213 pp.
All of the Poppy books are available from Amazon. Because it’s print-on-demand, Amazon does not keep the books in stock. People can still order the books; it will just take a while for them to be printed because of the current pandemic has lowered the number of folk able to work at the printers.
https://www.amazon.com/s?k=From+Poppy+with+Love&i=stripbooks&ref=nb_sb_noss
From Poppy, With Love 3: Even More Letters from a Grandfather to the Grandchildren He Isn't Allowed to See Paperback – July 7, 2014by John R. Killinger (Author)
When John Killinger published From Poppy, With Love, a volume of letters for the grandchildren he isn’t allowed to visit, he thought he had provided all the information his grandchildren would need to understand their paternal grandparents and their feelings about things. He soon found that he missed writing to the grandchildren, however, so continued to jot down his thoughts, which became From Poppy, with Love: More Letters from a Grandfather to the Grandchildren He Isn’t Allowed to See.
This third volume, he notes, would not have been written were it not for a Valentine card and a dream, which made such an impact that the grandchildren needed to be told. Herein are further adventures of Toby the dog, instances of great joy and tremendous sorrow, all conveyed by a master storyteller. An important part of this collection of letters addresses Grammy’s discovery of and treatment for cancer in a thoughtful, loving way, and then the sad news of Grammy’s death.
Even readers who haven’t had a problem getting to see their grandchildren will enjoy the naked sensitivity of these letters and the many subjects they touch upon. Collectively, they are about what it means to be deeply human and to truly care about one’s family.
$18.95 paperback, 268 pp.
All of the Poppy books are available from Amazon. Because it’s print-on-demand, Amazon does not keep the books in stock. People can still order the books; it will just take a while for them to be printed because of the current pandemic has lowered the number of folk able to work at the printers.
When John Killinger published From Poppy, With Love, a volume of letters for the grandchildren he isn’t allowed to visit, he thought he had provided all the information his grandchildren would need to understand their paternal grandparents and their feelings about things. He soon found that he missed writing to the grandchildren, however, so continued to jot down his thoughts, which became From Poppy, with Love: More Letters from a Grandfather to the Grandchildren He Isn’t Allowed to See.
This third volume, he notes, would not have been written were it not for a Valentine card and a dream, which made such an impact that the grandchildren needed to be told. Herein are further adventures of Toby the dog, instances of great joy and tremendous sorrow, all conveyed by a master storyteller. An important part of this collection of letters addresses Grammy’s discovery of and treatment for cancer in a thoughtful, loving way, and then the sad news of Grammy’s death.
Even readers who haven’t had a problem getting to see their grandchildren will enjoy the naked sensitivity of these letters and the many subjects they touch upon. Collectively, they are about what it means to be deeply human and to truly care about one’s family.
$18.95 paperback, 268 pp.
All of the Poppy books are available from Amazon. Because it’s print-on-demand, Amazon does not keep the books in stock. People can still order the books; it will just take a while for them to be printed because of the current pandemic has lowered the number of folk able to work at the printers.
Our New World of Adult Bullies: How to Spot Them ― How to Stop Them Paperback – June 11, 2024
by Bill Eddy (Author)
Our New World of Adult Bullies connects the dots to show how bullies at all levels of society follow the same predictable patterns of behavior.
Bullies exist everywhere: families, workplaces, neighborhoods and communities, politics and government, and organizations of all types and sizes. And in a media landscape where conflict, crisis, chaos, and fear reign supreme, every day we see the worst behavior of celebrities, politicians, and other public figures who serve as role models.
Winners and losers. Friends and enemies. Heroes and villains. People with high-conflict personalities think almost solely in these extremes. They regularly express unmanaged emotions, routinely blame others, and do harmful things that 90% of people would never do. Bullies share these characteristics, plus a drive to dominate or destroy their victims.
But all bullies act in the same highly predictable patterns, regardless of their demographics and situation. By focusing on the ten hidden powers bullies employ—from their unrestrained nature and bully story to manipulating emotions and playing the victim—Bill Eddy unpacks the way bullies rely on primitive emotions and nonverbal behavior. He helps readers spot these behaviors and offers practical actions before they become immobilized by helplessness, blame, and shame.
In today’s world, we all may have an adult bully in our lives sooner or later. For anyone who has a bully in their life now, for professionals who counsel victims of bullying, and for anyone who is concerned about the fraying of our culture and society, this book gives effective strategies to prevent bullies from taking over. Eddy’s six-step approach includes useful advice on how to:
Our New World of Adult Bullies takes a closer look at the dangerous behavior of bullies and how to stop the behavior before it starts.
by Bill Eddy (Author)
Our New World of Adult Bullies connects the dots to show how bullies at all levels of society follow the same predictable patterns of behavior.
Bullies exist everywhere: families, workplaces, neighborhoods and communities, politics and government, and organizations of all types and sizes. And in a media landscape where conflict, crisis, chaos, and fear reign supreme, every day we see the worst behavior of celebrities, politicians, and other public figures who serve as role models.
Winners and losers. Friends and enemies. Heroes and villains. People with high-conflict personalities think almost solely in these extremes. They regularly express unmanaged emotions, routinely blame others, and do harmful things that 90% of people would never do. Bullies share these characteristics, plus a drive to dominate or destroy their victims.
But all bullies act in the same highly predictable patterns, regardless of their demographics and situation. By focusing on the ten hidden powers bullies employ—from their unrestrained nature and bully story to manipulating emotions and playing the victim—Bill Eddy unpacks the way bullies rely on primitive emotions and nonverbal behavior. He helps readers spot these behaviors and offers practical actions before they become immobilized by helplessness, blame, and shame.
In today’s world, we all may have an adult bully in our lives sooner or later. For anyone who has a bully in their life now, for professionals who counsel victims of bullying, and for anyone who is concerned about the fraying of our culture and society, this book gives effective strategies to prevent bullies from taking over. Eddy’s six-step approach includes useful advice on how to:
- Recognize the patterns of bully behavior
- Pull the plug on the bully’s story
- Set limits with credible threats
- Impose serious consequences
- Communicate effectively about bullies to others
- Stand strong with others against bullies
Our New World of Adult Bullies takes a closer look at the dangerous behavior of bullies and how to stop the behavior before it starts.
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Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder Paperback – July 1, 2021
by Bill Eddy LCSW JD (Author), Randi Kreger (Author) in Administrative Law This highly anticipated second edition of Splitting includes new chapters on abuse, alienation, and false allegations; as well as information about the four types of domestic violence, protective orders, and child custody disputes. Are you divorcing someone who’s making the process as difficult as possible? Are they sending you nasty emails, falsifying the truth, putting your children in the middle, abusing you, or abusing the system? Are they “persuasive blamers,” manipulating and fooling court personnel to get them on their side? If so, you need this book. For more than ten years, Splitting has served as the ultimate guide for people divorcing a high conflict person, one who often has borderline or narcissistic (or even antisocial) personality disorder. Among other things, it has saved readers thousands of dollars, helped them keep custody of their children, and effectively guided them through a difficult legal and emotional process. Written by a family law attorney and therapist, and the author of Stop Walking on Eggshells, Splitting is an essential legal and psychological guide for anyone divorcing a persuasive blamer: someone who suffers from borderline personality disorder (BPD), narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), and/or antisocial personality disorder (ASPD). This second edition includes new information about antisocial personalities; expanded information about domestic violence, child abuse, alienation, and false allegations; how to approach protective orders and deal with child custody disputes; and a new chapter on how to successfully present your case to decision makers. Turn to this guide to help you:
BIFF for CoParent Communication: Your Guide to Difficult Texts, Emails, and Social Media Posts (BIFF Conflict Communication Series, 3) Paperback – November 3, 2020
by Bill Eddy (Author), Annette Burns (Author), Kevin Chafin (Author) Paperback $12.84 "Coparenting is hard in any circumstance and when doing it with someone that has a high conflict personality, can seem impossible. The first step is to admit that you are outmatched in every way except for the ability to learn new skills related to the high conflict personality. My life did not change until I began to read and understand and start using tools like BIFF. I couldn’t help my children because I couldn’t help myself and until I learned new tools, felt hopeless. Using BIFF will give you hope that change is possible.” A.C., parent Use BIFF to Communicate with Your Ex's Blaming, Accusing and Taunting Texts and Emails In divorce and co-parenting, not only do you need to deal with your own emotions, you may be faced with a daily barrage of hostile calls, texts, email, and social media blasts. How can you regain a sense of control and peace for your own sake and for the kids? For more than a decade, the BIFF method of responding to hostile and misinforming emails, texts, and conversations has grown in use by thousands of people dealing with a difficult co-parent and with those who may have a high conflict personality, and it helps with those who don't. This third book in the BIFF™ Conflict Communication Series is especially devoted to parents dealing with issues during, and after, separation and divorce. Complete with instructions in the four-step BIFF method, and numerous practical examples, readers will learn the intricacies of their new parenting environment. When parents use this approach, not only do they feel good about their end of the written or verbal conversation, but it tends to influence the other parent to communicate more productively as well. While it's simple and practical, it's not natural for most of us because we are hooked by the emotional intensity. This book can help you reduce the conflict and regain your sanity by learning what to write and what not to write. BIFF: Quick Responses to High-Conflict People, Their Personal Attacks, Hostile Email and Social Media Meltdowns Paperback – September 16, 2014
by Bill Eddy (Author)We live in an age of rapid change and instant communication. We also live in a Culture of Blame and Disrespect, creating a need to manage our responses to high conflict people (HCPs). A BIFF Response® can be applied in any communication anywhere: in an email, a text message, on social media, in a letter or even in person. It can be used at work, earning you respect and success. It can help you get along with difficult family members, friends, neighbors, and others anywhere in your life. BIFF was designed to protect you and your reputation by responding quickly and civilly to people who treat you rudely, while being reasonable in return. BIFF stands for Brief, Informative, Friendly, and Firm. A BIFF response is easy to remember, but hard to do. It takes practice! This first book in the BIFF™ Conflict Communication Series is for anyone dealing with high conflict communications. Complete with instructions in the four-step BIFF method, and numerous practical examples, readers will learn the intricacies of stopping the back-and-forth messages and contain the conflict. This Second Edition includes a new chapter on Coaching for BIFF Responses. Anyone can use this method to help someone else with a BIFF communication by asking 10 simple questions to make it even more effective. Don't Alienate the Kids!: Raising Resilient Children While Avoiding High-Conflict Divorce 2nd Edition
by Bill Eddy (Author) Paperback $11.99 n this tenth anniversary edition of Don’t Alienate the Kids! attorney, mediator, and therapist Bill Eddy shows readers how to protect children from the harm of alienation and high-conflict divorce, boosting their resilience by teaching them to think flexibly, manage their emotions, and moderate their behaviors. We all know breakups can get ugly. But sometimes they can get downright vicious, with badmouthing, brainwashing, and allegations of alienation, child abuse and domestic violence, all leading to nasty custody battles. And when they do, it’s the children who suffer most. During a high-conflict divorce or separation, kids can develop lifelong habits of all-or-nothing thinking, unregulated emotions, and extreme behaviors. Professionals who want to help may unintentionally make things worse, believing everything a parent says or taking sides. No one can solve this problem alone. That’s because the wall of alienation between parent and child is built by:
But there's hope! Readers can help kids learn flexible thinking, emotion regulation, effective behaviors, and healthy relationships. Everyone involved must work together. This book shows how parents, family members, friends, counselors, lawyers, parenting coordinators, divorce coaches, and family court judges can become part of the solution, giving children a foundation of resilience that will last a lifetime. Bill Eddy is cofounder of the High Conflict Institute and the author or coauthor of thirteen books, including Five Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life, BIFF, and Splitting. 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life: Identifying and Dealing with Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other High-Conflict Personalities Paperback – February 6, 2018
by Bill Eddy (Author) Do you know someone whose moods swing wildly? Do they act unreasonably suspicious or antagonistic? Do they blame others for their own problems? When a high-conflict person has one of five common personality disorders—borderline, narcissistic, paranoid, antisocial, or histrionic—they can lash out in risky extremes of emotion and aggression. And once an HCP decides to target you, they’re hard to shake. But there are ways to protect yourself. Using empathy-driven conflict management techniques, Bill Eddy, a lawyer and therapist with extensive mediation experience, will teach you to: - Spot warning signs of the five high-conflict personalities in others and in yourself. - Manage relationships with HCPs at work and in your private life. - Safely avoid or end dangerous and stressful interactions with HCPs. Filled with expert advice and real-life anecdotes, 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life is an essential guide to helping you escape negative relationships, build healthy connections, and safeguard your reputation and personal life in the process. And if you have a high-conflict personality, this book will help you help yourself. High Conflict People in Legal Disputes Paperback – March 30, 2012
by Bill Eddy (Author)An easy-to-read and practical guide for legal professionals or anyone disputing with a high-conflict personality. Using compelling case examples and drawing from thirty years' experience in three professions, Bill Eddy explains the dynamics and strange logic of four types of personality disorders that appear to be increasing in legal disputes. Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder Paperback – June 1, 2011
by Bill Eddy (Author), Randi Kreger (Author) Protect Yourself from Manipulation, False Accusations, and Abuse Divorce is difficult under the best of circumstances. When your spouse has borderline personality disorder (BPD), narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), or is manipulative, divorcing can be especially complicated. While people with these tendencies may initially appear convincing and even charming to lawyers and judges, you know better―many of these “persuasive blamers” leverage false accusations, attempt to manipulate others, launch verbal and physical attacks, and do everything they can to get their way. Splitting is your legal and psychological guide to safely navigating a high-conflict divorce from an unpredictable spouse. Written by Bill Eddy, a family lawyer, therapist, and divorce mediator, and Randi Kreger, coauthor of the BPD classic Stop Walking on Eggshells, this book includes all of the critical information you need to work through the process of divorce in an emotionally balanced, productive way. Turn to this guide to help you:
It's All Your Fault! 12 Tips for Managing People Who Blame Others for Everything Kindle Edition
by Bill Eddy LCSW Esq. (Author) Format: Kindle EditionThis is Bill Eddy's book filled with lots of practical methods for handling High Conflict People (HCPs) in any setting, including neighbor disputes, workplace conflicts, family battles, with strangers, etc. HCPs target those close to them and people in positions of authority, so in this book Bill focuses on what to do when YOU are the Target of Blame—and how to avoid (or prevent) being one for long. It is organized around 12 key Tips (5 Do’s and 7 Don’ts), that simplify large concepts into small, easy-to-remember phrases when you’re under the stress of a high conflict dispute. This book is for the general public, so you can give it to anyone. The book includes a lot of his latest thinking and reading about the brain, personality development, interesting cases, and the importance of Negative Advocates on a community’s culture of conflict. It also has (of course) a cartoon for each chapter, from Peanuts, Dilbert, and The New Yorker. Bill goes beyond the information in his previous books, which focused primarily on HCPs in legal settings. He explains the four most common High Conflict Personalities (Borderline, Narcissistic, Histrionic, Antisocial), with an emphasis on understanding their High Conflict Thinking—and why it is so contagious. Once again, he gives numerous examples—some real, some fictional—to demonstrate the very predictable dynamics of high conflict disputes. High Conflict People seem to be increasing in today’s conflicts worldwide. As Bill says: “The issue’s not the issue; the High Conflict Personality is the issue.” So prepare yourself by reading IT’S ALL YOUR FAULT! It's All Your Fault at Work!: Managing Narcissists and Other High-Conflict People Paperback – February 3, 2015
by Bill Eddy (Author), L. Georgi DiStefano (Author)The award-winning book that gives readers a method for handling the increasingly-outrageous behavior of narcissists and high-conflict people at work. Increasingly, high-conflict people—especially narcissists and bullies—are showing up in the workplace. It's All Your Fault at Work! addresses ways of managing the behavior of high-conflict people (HCP). Based on Bill Eddy's high-conflict personality theory, the book explains how to recognize predictable patterns of behavior and illustrates with over a dozen examples the simple four-step C.A.R.S. method to calm the HCP, analyze options, respond to hostility, and set limits on extreme behavior. “This book belongs in every leader’s library. Although I believe there’s a pearl of good in everyone, some people’s pearl is hard to find. You may not be able to change a high conflict personality, but by using Bill Eddy’s and Georgi DiStefano’s techniques, you’ll be able to keep the focus on solutions rather than arguments.” So, What's Your Proposal?: Shifting High-Conflict People from Blaming to Problem-Solving in 30 Seconds! Paperback – September 16, 2014
by Bill Eddy (Author)Complain! Complain! Complain! Have you ever dealt with high-conflict people who blame you or others for one problem after another without taking any responsibility themselves? Don’t you feel like wringing their necks? Instead, consider the simple method taught in this book for getting them out of the past and away from blaming everyone else. Get them to quickly focus on the future, take responsibility and contribute to finding solutions to problems – including those they created themselves or any problem. When people complain and blame you, you don’t need to defend yourself or get angry back. Just calmly say: “So, what’s your proposal?” and focus on teaching the simple 3-step method explained in this book. This method will help you stay calm and confident, while earning the respect of those around you – even those who want to blame you! And blame is abundant these days! Every day dozens, if not hundreds, of people confront us at work, at the store, in our communities and online. Nerves get on edge. More and more people get stuck blaming others for anything that goes wrong. With high-conflict people increasing in society, with the 24-hour news cycle, and with Twitter, Facebook and the Internet, we hear constantly about the worst behavior of other people and dozens of terrible problems. The strong temptation is to react and blame others back. However, this just feeds the problem. This book shifts the conversation from the past and blame, to the future and problem-solving. The book teaches a simple method which can be used by almost anyone. It will help the reader stay calm and confident, while also keeping the focus on solving problems, rather than blaming people. But it takes practice, which is why this book gives so many examples. The reader will earn the respect of those around him or her. We have seen it happen over and over again – many times in just 30 seconds. Another helpful tool to communicate effectively with high-conflict people is BIFF: Quick Responses to High-Conflict People, Their Hostile Email, Personal Attacks and Social Media Meltdowns, also by Bill Eddy. New Ways for Families Professional Guidebook: For Therapists, Lawyers, Judicial Officers and Mediators Second Edition
by Bill Eddy (Author) An exciting new method for handling the growing problem of high-conflict families in court and out-of-court, including traditional, Collaborative Divorce and Parenting Coordination cases. It is designed to save courts time, save parents money, and protect children as families re-organize in new ways after divorce. This Guidebook is for mental health professionals to learn to use this method with families. New Ways for Work: Coaching Manual: Personal Skills for Productive Relationships Paperback – March 17, 2015
by Bill Eddy (Author) High-conflict employees are increasing in the workplace. Bullying, harassment, incivility, and threats of violence are a danger to employees and an organization's reputation, productivity, and ability to avoid court. This manual is designed for use with New Ways for Work: Workbook, for coaching workers in need of remedial interpersonal skills because of job discipline. This New Ways for Work: Coaching Manual is a guide for Employee Assistance Professionals, therapists who provide workplace coaching, human resource professionals, and others who coach employees. It is designed to be used with the New Ways for Work: Workbook as a remedial method for workers who have the potential to improve workplace behavior through improved conflict resolution skills. It is also useful for those who want to advance in their careers with new and expanded conflict resolution skills. The New Ways for Work™ method is a simple approach to learning key interpersonal skills for the workplace. New “ways” simply mean new skills, which keeps the focus on the positive and learning skills for the future. The Coaching Manual provides sample answers; offers three self-contained coaching sessions, additional coaching sessions for more specific skills; and includes numerous exercises for employees and managers. New Ways for Life™ Youth Journal: Life Skills for Young People Age 12 - 17 (New Ways (7)) Paperback – September 8, 2020
by Bill Eddy (Author), Susan Rayner (Author) New Ways for Life™ teaches young people how to control themselves in an out-of-control world New Ways for Life™ is an easy-to-learn method for acquiring 4 Big Skills that can help any young person age 12-17 prepare for managing life’s challenges and gaining confidence in the years to come. The Youth Journal offers encouragement and easy lessons for managing emotions, using flexible thinking, applying moderate behavior to fit the situation, and taking responsibility for using these skills in daily life. The seventh in the popular New Ways™ series, New Ways for Life™ is designed to reduce bullying in schools and social media, help resolve friendship conflicts, manage family conflicts, eliminate violence at home and in schools, and reduce stress levels. This personalized journal is intended to be confidential and can be used again and again when young people come up against difficult or stressful situations. It’s not complicated and there are no tests at the end. Not everything learned at school will be used in the future, but these 4 Big Skills will help for a lifetime. Students, scouts, youth group attendees, support group members, or any young person can use this Youth Journal to enhance his or her life-long relationship and conflict resolution skills. The Future of Family Court: Skills Structure and Less Stress Paperback – August 12, 2012
by Bill Eddy (Author)Designed for judicial officers with an emphasis on applying lessons learned from the mental health field to the family court system, especially when working with high-conflict parents. Lawyer, therapist and trainer of judges, Bill Eddy, provides tips on what individual judges can do, rather than recommending sweeping changes in the court system or creating new players in the decision-making process. Dating Radar: Why Your Brain Says Yes to "The One" Who Will Make Your Life Hell Audible Audiobook – Unabridged
Bill Eddy LCSW Esq. (Author), Barry Abrams (Narrator)If hindsight is 20/20 vision, dating radar is x-ray vision. Why do so many of us commit to the wrong person? Most believe that attraction and compatibility are the keys to relationship success when, in reality, these are red flags in 15-20% of the population. When it comes to love, the brain is irrational and shortsighted. We make decisions based on incomplete information, biased understanding, and strong emotion. Love truly is blind. That's why you need dating radar - it gives you a way to detect hazards you might otherwise miss by recognizing:
Attorney, mediator, and social worker Bill Eddy and relationship expert Megan Hunter use their expertise in high-conflict personalities, complicated relationships, and divorce to equip us to see through the blinding spark of new love and spot potential toxic relationships before it's too late. Calming Upset People with EAR Paperback – June 15, 2021
by Bill Eddy LCSW Esq. (Author) The level of stress and conflict in today’s world is higher than seen in decades. We all can use tools for managing the emotions this has caused. At the same time, there also appear to be more “high conflict” people who are preoccupied with blaming others and verbally venting or attacking those around them. Yet, these upset emotions and conflicts can often be calmed immediately through the use of a simple EAR Statement™, a method developed and refined by Bill Eddy over the past fifteen years and taught to hundreds of thousands of professionals and individuals. Following on the success of his widely-known BIFF Response® method and books, this new book by Bill Eddy on EAR Statements will come in handy in all kinds of upset situations: family conflicts, workplace disputes, neighbor controversies, and any other setting. A simple statement communicating empathy, attention and/or respect to an angry, sad, mentally ill or any upset person at any time can work wonders in minutes. Yet it's not as easy as it looks. It takes practice and this book gives over twenty examples of applying this method in families, communities, customer relations, volunteer organizations, public service, politics, business, police encounters, racial conflicts, schools, mental health settings, and others. Empathy, attention and respect are what all people are looking for, especially when upset or in a conflict. This book will give you the details of how to calm upset people with EAR every day. Done With The Crying: Help and Healing for Mothers of Estranged Adult Children First Edition
by Sheri McGregor M.A. (Author) Paperback $17.99 In Done With The Crying: Help and Healing for Mothers of Estranged Adult Children, Sheri McGregor, M.A., helps parents break free from emotional pain—and move forward in their own lives. As a loving mother to whom the unthinkable happened, McGregor knows the horrible shock that wrings a parent dry, triggers denial, blame, anger, and shame. With empathy and understanding, as well as tools, the latest research, and insight from more than 9,000 parents of estranged adult children, McGregor helps parents of estranged adults plan ahead, prepare for emotional triggers, and prevail over setbacks and pain. You can be happy again. In a calm yet authoritative voice, and with exercises derived from her work as a life coach and her own recovery, McGregor helps mothers who did their best to come to terms with their estranged adult child's choices, and regain their health and happiness. To fathers of estranged adult children--this book can help you, too. "Ninety-three percent of the parents who answer my survey at RejectedParents.Net are mothers," says Sheri McGregor. "That's why the title is directed at them. But many of the book's examples are from couples, and include the experiences of fathers. Some passages directly highlight men's reactions, including my husband's. The principles presented are relevant to fathers, and the strategies for coping can be used by anyone." In this encouraging and comprehensive book, McGregor fully covers the phenomenon of estranged adult children from families who never expected a son or daughter to cut ties and walk away. Nine in-depth chapters provide dozens of inspiring examples from among the thousands of parents of estranged adult children. Gain understanding and practical help from a mother who knows the pain of this devastating loss with all its uncertainty and heartache. Hope can remain, but you don't have to stay stalled, forever waiting. You can move past the disbelief and distress. Take charge. Reclaim yourself and your life—only maybe even better. Done With The Crying WORKBOOK: for Parents of Estranged Adult Children by Sheri McGregor M.A. (Author) Paperback $13.99 As readers have requested, Sheri McGregor's new release, the Done With The Crying WORKBOOK for Parents of Estranged Adult Children compliments her award-winning self-help book, Done With The Crying. The Workbook concentrates the exercises in a larger format that provides more writing space for the deeper insight readers find useful. Meant as a supplement to the book readers call "the bible for estranged parents" and say is "better than therapy," the Workbook helps audio- and e-book readers to make the concepts more personal. The exercises facilitate self-discovery and growth, which helps parents of estranged adults to move forward in their own lives. Those who are revisiting the recovery concepts or who have been estranged yet again will find the Workbook convenient. By applying the information, parents can take charge of their emotional health and move beyond the sorrow to new meaning and joy. Restoring Family Connections Paperback – December 24, 2019
by AMY BAKER (Author), PAUL FINE (Author), ALIANNA LACHEEN-BAKER (Author) This book provides a tool for clinicians to turn to when they are working with adult children and their parents seeking to resolve conflict, improve communication, and enhance their relationships. Adult Children of Parental Alienation Syndrome: Breaking the Ties That Bind (Norton Professional Book) 1st Edition by Amy J. L. Baker Ph.D. (Author) An examination of adults who have been manipulated by divorcing parents. Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) occurs when divorcing parents use children as pawns, trying to turn the child against the other parent. This book examines the impact of PAS on adults and offers strategies and hope for dealing with the long-term effects. Surviving Parental Alienation: A Journey of Hope and Healing by Amy J.L. Baker author of Surviving Parental Alienation: A Journey of Hope and Healing and Bonded to the Abuser: How Victims Make Sense of Childhood Abuse (Author), Paul R. Fine (Author) Hardcover from $19.66 Paperback $22.00 Surviving Parental Alienation provides parents who have been ostracized from their children with understanding and validation through personal accounts and expert analysis. Offering insight and advice, the authors guide the “targeted” parent through the issues and challenges and help them better manage their experiences Co-parenting with a Toxic Ex: What to Do When Your Ex-Spouse Tries to Turn the Kids Against You Paperback – May 1, 2014 by Amy J. L. Baker PhD (Author), Paul R Fine LCSW (Author) You aren’t what you think! For teens with negative thinking habits, a licensed psychologist and a health journalist offer cognitive restructuring—a simple and effective cognitive behavioral approach to help you break free from the nine most common negative thinking habits that typically result in feeling sad, worried, angry, and stressed. This workbook offers a powerful technique called cognitive restructuring to help you reframe your thoughts, regulate your emotions, become a more flexible thinker, and stop letting your thoughts define who you are and how you feel. You’ll learn to target the nine specific kinds of negative thinking habits that can cause you to worry or feel bad, such as the I can’t habit, the doom and gloom habit, the all or nothing habit, the jumping to conclusions habit, and more! Each chapter will walk you through simple explanations of each kind of negative thought, and offers real-life examples—as well as the sorts of behaviors, emotions, and bodily sensations that might be expected. You'll also gain an understanding of unhelpful or unrealistic thoughts, how to challenge them, how to replace them with more realistic and helpful thoughts, and an action plan for moving forward. By recognizing these negative thinking habits, you’ll feel more in control and less anxious and sad. Most importantly, you’ll be able to see yourself and the world more clearly. Your thoughts don’t have to define who you are and how you experience life. The transdiagnostic approach in this book will show you how to kick negative thinking habits to the curb for good! Parental Alienation - Science and Law Hardcover – April 16, 2020
by Demosthenes Lorandos (Author), William Bernet (Author) See all formats and editions Parental Alienation - Science and Law explains the research that creates the foundation for the assessment, identification, and intervention in cases of parental alienation (PA). For attorneys, judges, and family law professionals, this book explains in detail the scientific basis for testimony and legal decisions that relate to PA. There are two complementary features for most of the chapters. First, the chapter authors address how evidence regarding PA meets the criteria of the Frye, Daubert, and Mohan cases as well as the Federal Rules of Evidence for testimony by experts. The second feature is to refute common misinformation. There is debate and disagreement about some aspects of PA theory. The editors of this book are concerned that some of the discourse regarding PA has spun out of control, into pervasive misinformation. This book provides plenty of evidence for overcoming that hurdle. The editors of this book and the chapter authors have extensive experience with both clinical and legal aspects of divorce, child custody, parenting time evaluations, PA, and related topics. The editors and chapter authors include six psychologists, three physicians, two social workers, four attorneys, and one judge. Collectively, these mental health professionals have testified as expert witnesses hundreds of times regarding family law topics. As an additional feature, the book contains four appendices and three indexes. Appendix A defines the concepts used in this book, so that the chapter authors and readers will use terminology in a consistent manner. Appendix B lists more than one thousand trial and appellate cases in the U.S. involving PA, organized by state. Appendix C presents twenty rather dramatic vignettes involving PA. Finally, Appendix D, Sample Motion and Brief for Extended Voir Dire, provides a motion and supporting brief asking the court to allow extended time to examine the competency of a proposed expert. Ambiguous Loss: Learning to Live with Unresolved Grief Hardcover – May 1, 1999
by Pauline Boss (Author)When a loved one dies we mourn our loss. We take comfort in the rituals that mark the passing, and we turn to those around us for support. But what happens when there is no closure, when a family member or a friend who may be still alive is lost to us nonetheless? How, for example, does the mother whose soldier son is missing in action, or the family of an Alzheimer's patient who is suffering from severe dementia, deal with the uncertainty surrounding this kind of loss? In this sensitive and lucid account, Pauline Boss explains that, all too often, those confronted with such ambiguous loss fluctuate between hope and hopelessness. Suffered too long, these emotions can deaden feeling and make it impossible for people to move on with their lives. Yet the central message of this book is that they can move on. Drawing on her research and clinical experience, Boss suggests strategies that can cushion the pain and help families come to terms with their grief. Her work features the heartening narratives of those who cope with ambiguous loss and manage to leave their sadness behind, including those who have lost family members to divorce, immigration, adoption, chronic mental illness, and brain injury. With its message of hope, this eloquent book offers guidance and understanding to those struggling to regain their lives. Divorce Poison New and Updated Edition: How to Protect Your Family from Bad-mouthing and Brainwashing Paperback – January 19, 2010 by Dr. Richard A Warshak (Author) Your ex-spouse is bad-mouthing you to your children, perhaps even trying to turn them against you. If you handle the situation ineffectively, you could lose your children's respect, their affections - even in extreme case, lose contact with them. The conventional advice is to do nothing, that fighting fire with fire will only result in greater injury to the children. But Dr Richard Warshak is convinced that this approach does nothing but leave parents feeling helpless. And the damage to children is considerable, particularly when warring parents enlist children as allies in the battle. The problems range from tainted parent-child relationships to a disturbance known as parental alienation syndrome, in which children virtually disown one of their parents. DIVORCE POISON is the first book that offers specific advice to protect children from the results of their parents' animosity. It details how to distinguish different types of criticism, how and why parents manipulate their children, how to detect these maneuvers, and how these practices damage children. Most importantly, it offers parents powerful strategies to preserve and rebuild loving relationships with their children. The Parental Alienation Syndrome: A Guide for Mental Health and Legal Professionals by Richard A. Gardner (1998-03-03)Paperback – 1981 by Richard A. Gardner (Author) $181.62 This is the definitive work on a phenomenon which seems to afflict, to one degree or another, most divorcing fathers, and through which, for the rest of their lives, victimized fathers and their children suffer profoundly. The book diagnoses the problem, and provides insights into its causes and possible avoidance. The International Handbook of Parental Alienation Syndrome: Conceptual, Clinical And Legal Considerations (American Series in Behavioral Science and Law) 1st Edition by Richard A. Gardner (Author, Editor), Richard S. Sauber (Author), Demosthenes Lorandos (Author, Editor), S. Richard Sauber (Editor) Hardcover The dramatic increase in the number of child-custody disputes since the 1970's has created an equally dramatic need for a standard reference work that examines the growing social problem of children who develop an irrational hatred for a parent as the result of divorce. The International Handbook of Parental Alienation Syndrome features clinical, legal and research perspectives from thirty-two contributors representing views across eight countries, building on the work of the late Dr. Richard Gardener, a pioneer in the theory, practice, diagnosis and treatment of Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS). This unique title addresses the effects of PAS on parents and children, discusses issues surrounding reconciliation between parent and alicnated child and includes material published for the first time on incidence, gender and false allegations of abuse in PAS. Therapeutic Interventions for Children with Parental Alienation Syndrome Paperback – Unabridged, 2001 by Richard A. Gardner (Author) Gardner defines Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) as follows: "PAS is a disorder that arises primarily in the context of child-custody disputes. Its primary manifestation is the child's campaign of denigration against a parent, a campaign that has no justification. It results from the combination of a programming (brainwashing) parent's indoctrination and the child's own contributions to the vilification of the target parent. When true parental abuse and/or neglect is present, the child's animosity may be justified, and the parental-alienation-syndrome explanation for the child's hostility is not applicable" Dr. Gardner, a professor and psychiatrist at Columbia University, first introduced the term Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) in 1985. Included in his prolific writing of over 40 books are three books on PAS: The Parental Alienation Syndrome and the Differentiation Between Fabricated and Genuine Child Sex Abuse (1987), The Parental Alienation Syndrome:A Guide (1998), and The Parental Alienation Syndrome, Second Edition (1992). Importantly, Gardner first established the behavioral and psychological criteria for PAS before presenting suggestions for treatment. The books named above give clear descriptors of how to identify the syndrome. But the establishment of the syndrome has not been without controversy. Academic discussions with regard to PAS's rightful place in the nomenclature of DSM-IV have not come to any final conclusion. This is to be expected; the scientific and political machine that determines such matters is predictably slow and ponderous. In my view a slow tempo with which the professional community accepts any new syndrome is a healthy pace to ponder the evidence. Such delays augment the quality of the baseline data and research. However, for the parents and children who are directly affected by PAS, the recognition of the syndrome by judges and mental health professionals cannot be fast enough. Parental Alienation: The Handbook for Mental Health and Legal Professionals (Behavioral Science and Law) Har/Cdr Edition by Demosthenes Lorandos (Author, Editor), William Bernet (Editor), S. Richard Sauber (Editor) Parental Alienation: The Handbook for Mental Health and Legal Professionals is the essential how to manual in this important and ever increasing area of behavioral science and law. Busy mental health professionals need a reference guide to aid them in developing data sources to support their positions in reports and testimony. They also need to know where to go to find the latest material on a topic. Having this material within arm s reach will avoid lengthy and time-consuming online research. For legal professionals who must ground their arguments in well thought out motions and repeated citations to case precedent, ready access to state or province specific legal citations spanning thirty-five years of parental alienation cases is provided here for the first time in one place. Includes: Supplemental Reference Guide on CD-ROM Carefully vetted reference material in the behavioral sciences and in law has been included on a separate CD-ROM found at the back of the book. This is very important material, and the authors have spent over two years gathering these sources, researching over two thousand U.S. and Canadian cases citing to parental alienation and have chosen more than five hundred cases in which an expert testified about parental alienation, the judge found parental alienation or both. Each of these cases has been described in a very brief memo drawn directly from the case and in a carefully checked exact legal citation. The book is also interspersed with vignettes of actual cases to offer practical significance through-out many chapters and to complement the presentation. It is the basic text for mental health and legal professionals, and the how to aspect of the Handbook will be invaluable to the lay reader as well. Understanding Parental Alienation: Learning to Cope, Helping to Heal by Karen Woodall (Author), Nick Woodall (Author) Understanding parental alienation is intended for parents who are living through a nightmare the loss of their relationship with a child which seems impossible to understand and extremely frustrating to turn around. This book, written by two leading experts in the field, provides a balance of theoretical background and practical hands-on information to guide both parents and practitioners through this devastating phenomenon. The authors many years of experience have shaped their understanding of the causes of parental alienation, the manifestations of this serious mental health condition, and interventions that are likely to be helpful in the short-term and the long-term. The book is written in a readable, engaging manner interspersed with interesting case vignettes. As well as introducing some new theoretical concepts, such as the transition bridge, and helping the reader to understand the unique dynamics of the child's rejection, perhaps the most original parts of the book focus on taking action to deal with the problem and strategies for healing. The authors provide practical advice on preparing for court including how to develop a chronology of events and how to prepare a written submission, even down to choosing a writing style that is most likely to be read by the judge. Specific guidance is also provided on how to help alienated children heal through reunification. Understanding Parental Alienation is a highly valuable resource for parents and a must-read book for every mental health professional, social worker or legal professional working with families in divorce. Unlocking Justice Paperback – Unabridged, 2012 by Karin Huffer (Author), Wilene Gremain (Editor) Buy New $59.95 Unlocking Justice (2012). Lawyers, health professionals, and aspiring ADA advocates will use this work to meet re-licensing requirements elevating readers' ethical compliance with ADA mandates. This book sets a much needed standard of care under the Americans with Disabilities Amendments Act of 2008 for ensuring equal treatment in the judicial system for those with functional impairments. In searching for a standard for equitable treatment for Litigants with Disabilities (LWD) I found none that consistently assure fair and equal access to the judicial system for them. NO organization, regulatory body, or professional ethical requirements among legal and health professionals assure that persons with impairments receive a fair unbiased experience in the courts. No profession involved in the justice system seems to be fully aware of the need to take a firm stand against the burgeoning health menace that the legal system now represents for litigants especially with invisible disabilities. This is the required text book for the ADA advocacy Online Course. To Learn more: https://equalaccessadvocates.com/courseinfo/ They're Your Kids Too: The Single Father’s Guide to Defending Your Fatherhood in a Broken Family Law System Paperback – October 7, 2011 by Anne P. Mitchell Esq (Author) The "must have" book for any single or soon-to-be-single father (or anyone involved with a single father), this slim, easy-to-read volume gets right to the point and tells you everything you need to know. Anne Mitchell is a nationally recognized fathers’ rights attorney and spokesperson, and was one of the first fathers’ rights lawyers in the country. She is the founder of DadsRights.org, and a leading advocate for children of divorce having a strong relationship with both parents, even in a social and legal climate that often seeks to reduce fathers to weekend “visitors”. The advice and information which was once only available to her clients is now available in this straight-forward, plain English, easy-to-read book. In addition to sections on parental alienation, parental kidnapping, and false allegations, Mitchell includes a section on how to shield your children from the fall-out from your divorce so that you can ensure that your children still have a happy, well-adjusted childhood, along with checklists for various issues you may encounter, and a directory of legal organizations and clinics in all 50 states. Please note that this is the 2nd Edition - The 1st Edition, along with reviews, can be seen by searching Amazon for "Surviving Divorce and Custody Issues: The Single Father's Guide". A Clear and Easy Guide to Collaborative Divorce March 2, 2018 by Jeremy S. Gaies Psy.D. (Author) Divorce brings so many challenges to couples and families. Unfortunately, the traditional approaches to getting divorced add to the difficulties. A Clear and Easy Guide to Collaborative Divorce describes a different approach, one that is more peaceful and more family friendly. This innovative method is now practiced throughout the United States, Canada, and abroad. It is passionately supported by family law professionals because it allows couples to resolve their disputes and reach a final agreement without fighting in court. It's simply a better option for many families as they navigate their path through divorce. In a simple question-and-answer format, this book outlines how Collaborative Divorce works and how it might work for your family. This is a wonderful resource for any couple that is exploring divorce options. It is very comprehensive, packing a tremendous amount of helpful information into a succinct and easy to read manual. Living on Automatic: How Emotional Conditioning Shapes Our Lives and Relationships Hardcover – August 31, 2018
by Homer B. Martin MD (Author), Christine B. L. Adams MD (Author), Mary E. Schwab MD (Foreword) 2019 Independent Publisher Book Awards (IPPY)--Gold Medal in Psychology/Mental Health Two veteran psychiatrists unravel the mystery of how thought and emotional patterns are passed from parents to children, generation after generation, "conditioning" each of us in ways that endure throughout our lives and affect all of our relationships. * Explores a groundbreaking concept developed by two psychiatrists with 80 years of combined experience in dynamic psychotherapy with almost 2,000 patients * Offers strategies to help readers liberate themselves from limiting ways of relating to others, avoid automatic emotional responses, live life with intention, and create happier relationships * Brings to life the principles presented through vignettes from dynamic psychotherapy treatment * Inclusive of the LGBT experience Living on Automatic has won the following awards: Finalist in the Best New Non-Fiction category of the 2018 Best Book Awards, sponsored by American Book Fest Foreword INDIES Finalist, 2018 Book of the Year Award, in Adult Nonfiction, Family & Relationships category Trevor Cooper has released his account of parental alienation which goes into detail of family history and events that led to his alienation from his daughter in the spirit of the Karen and Nick Woodall's book "Understanding Parental Alienation" and his transition into running groups, a national organization and helping others. A foreword by Dr William Bernet gives an overview of Parental Alienation so do not skip this section! With a testimonial that states "valuable suggestions for reform" from a former Chief Justice of Appeals and UN Human Rights Committee Member this book should be read by those that are campaigning for change, formulating policy and simply trying to understand those suffering Parental Alienation. You can get more information at www.trevorcooperauthor.com and purchase from that website or major online booksellers. RANDI KREGER HAS SOME EXCELLENT BOOKS. PLEASE GO TO HER WEBSITE AND ORDER THEM THERE
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by Janet Haines (Author), Mandy Matthewson (Author), Marcus Turnbull (Author) Sell on Amazon
In Understanding and Managing Parental Alienation: A Guide to Assessment and Intervention, Janet Haines, Mandy Matthewson and Marcus Turnbull offer a comprehensive analysis of contemporary understanding of parental alienation. Grounded in recent scientific advances, this is the first book of its kind providing resources on how to identify parental alienation and a guide to evidence-based intervention. Parental alienation is a process in which one parent manipulates their child to negatively perceive and reject the other parent. Recognizing this phenomenon and knowing when to intervene is often the biggest challenge faced by practitioners and this book provides a guide to this process. Divided into six parts, it examines what parental alienation is and how it is caused, how it affects each family member as a mental health concern and form of violence, and how to assess, identify and intervene successfully from a legal and therapy standpoint. Taking on a gender-neutral approach, the book is filled with contemporary case examples from male and female perspectives, cutting-edge research, practitioner-client dialogues, and practitioners’ reflections to show the difficult realities of parental alienation. Practical and accessible, this is an essential resource for mental health professionals working with families experiencing parental alienation, as well as postgraduate students of clinical psychology, counselling, family therapy, social work, and child and family psychology. This book will also be of immense interest to family lawyers and mediators due to its multidisciplinary approach. Co-parenting 101: Helping Your Kids Thrive in Two Households after Divorce Paperback – May 1, 2013
by Deesha Philyaw (Author), Michael D. Thomas (Author) A successful co-parenting relationship is as vital to your child's well-being and health as nutritious food or proper exercise. Research, anecdotal evidence, and plain common sense all point to the fact that children are happier, healthier, and better adjusted when both of their parents play an active role in their lives. Studies also show that the trauma children experience in the wake of a divorce or separation can be lessened when they see their parents getting along. Kids whose parents successfully co-parent feel more secure than those who have limited or no connection to one of their parents post divorce. Co-Parenting 101 is based on the premise that co-parenting is a must, not an option. The involvement of both parents―not just the primary guardian―is the cornerstone of successful co-parenting. This is the first book written by a formerly married couple for whom co parenting is central to their day to day lives, and it offers a comprehensive, personal, and upfront look at how to effectively raise kids with an ex-spouse. Authors Deesha Philyaw and Michael D. Thomas, the creators of the popular co-parenting website, co-parenting101.org, share their own experiences raising their children together, as well as provide professional advice from co-parenting experts. Through practical tips combined with expert parental strategies, this book a great resource for divorced parents with children. For parents, less time stressed out about legal wrangling means more time to be fully present and engaged with the children. By learning to put their animosity aside, parents can focus on putting their kids first. Parents are Forever: A Step-by-Step Guide to Becoming Successful Co-parents After Divorce Paperback – January 1, 2004
by Shirley Thomas (Author)Parents Are Forever leads parents gently, in step-by-step fashion, toward becoming successful coparents after divorce. Based on the grief recovery model, this book tells moms and dads exactly what they need to do to help the children they love cope with changes in their lives.Parents are shown how to have business meetings, how to create a parenting plan, and how to keep their children's needs as their first priority while they transition to a new kind of family. Raising the Kid You Love With the Ex You Hate Paperback – January 29, 2013
by Edward Farber (Author) Powerful advice for you and your ex-spouse on how to reduce conflict and protect your children's well-being while co-parentingYou and your former wife/husband are struggling to be civil to each other and you recognize the conflicts could be damaging to your child. Dr. Farber, a clinical child psychologist who's been in practice for 30+ years, knows what you're up against. He writes compassionately and insightfully about the concrete, doable steps you can take to avoid letting differences with your ex get in the way of being the best mom or the best dad you can be. Conflicts inevitably arise from living in two households. You don't have to like your ex, but, if you are going to co-parent successfully, you will still have to deal with your ex. Dr. Farber helps you navigate the upheaval with practical advice based on real-world families. His book shows you how to - Know what to say, and not to say, to your child about separation and divorce - Cope with child support and other money issues - Handle the holidays and special family occasions - Choose and adjust to new schools - Introduce your child to a potential new partner - Co-parent when an ex has a personality disorder, addiction problem, or is a bully - Decide when to recruit the help of a parent coordinator - Raise a healthy child while co-parenting You'll draw strength and encouragement from the positive outcomes he's helped hurting parents and children achieve as they confronted such gripping problem areas. Dr. Farber's expert analysis and counsel will show you how to use co-parenting to turn your broken marriage into a working divorce that supports the emotional and developmental health of your children caught in the crossfire. In the Name of the Child by Janet R. Johnston (1997-08-01) Hardcover – January 1, 1656
by Janet R. Johnston; Vivienne Roseby (Author) Johnston, Roseby, and Kuehnle take you behind the child's eyes, into their heads...[they] flesh out the familial context, and bring it all back into the larger social world....When you are done reading, you know who these families are, what the children need, and -- as a clinician -- how you can help them. --Marsha Kline Pruett, PhD, MSL Maconda Brown O'Connor Professor Smith College School for Social Work This book addresses problems that arise for children of conflicted and violent divorceÖ.It provides a good base for beginning to treat children in this situation as well as good information for understanding the legal and community services available." --Doody's The fully updated and revised edition of In the Name of the Child examines both the immediate and long-term effects of high-conflict divorce on children. By combining three decades of research with clinical experience, the authors trace the developmental problems affecting very young children through adolescence and adulthood, paying special attention to the impact of family violence and the dynamics of parental alienation. The authors present clinical interventions that have proven to be most effective in their own clinical work with families. With a new emphasis on the need for prevention and early intervention, this edition examines how defensive strategies and symptoms of distress in children can consolidate into immutable, long-standing psychopathology in their adult lives. This book contains the policies and procedures that can preempt these high-conflict outcomes in divorcing families. Key Features:
Half the Child: A Novel Audible Audiobook – Unabridged
William J. McGee (Author, Publisher), Kieran Larkin (Narrator) Half the Child takes place over four consecutive summers in the lives of Michael Mullen and his son Benjamin, who ages from two to five. Mike is an air traffic controller at New York City's LaGuardia Airport, who is also pursuing a graduate degree in psychology. He and Ben's mother are about to divorce, and the legal stakes keep dramatically increasing, ultimately culminating in abduction. The battle for Ben negatively affects Mike's career, education, financial state, friendships, romantic life, physical health, and emotional well-being. Refusing to relinquish his parental rights leads Mike to personal bankruptcy, temporary homelessness, potentially catastrophic errors at work, and suicidal depression. Yet he steadfastly refuses to consider a life that consists of living apart from his son. With courts continually ruling against Ben's father, it remains uncertain if their bond will survive. Ultimately, they will write their own love story. |
Mum, Dad Can you Hear me?
by Despina Mavridou (Author) Format: Kindle Edition
Divorce from the eyes of a child. What are children actually feeling? What are they going through during this difficult time? How are they experiencing a divorce when they are always stuck in the middle of disputes? Irene, is a 10-year-old girl whose parents are getting a divorce. In the midst of her confusion and helplessness, Irene turns to her diary to express her feelings and better process her parents’ divorce. The book is for kids from 9 to 13-years old and their parents. If someone is going through a divorce and they have kids, this thoughtful story will give them an insight into the minds of children, especially on how they feel and what they go through. However this book is not only for families that are going through a divorce but can be useful for everyone who wishes to understand the child's perspective during this period. The book "Mum, dad can you hear me" was reviewed by Jennifer Ibiam for Readers' Favorite with 5 stars: "The plot was well structured, her writing style was playful, and her tone was relaxed. This story is short and powerful, hitting the target with its message. I loved it!" The Equal Parent Presumption: Social Justice in the Legal Determination of Parenting after Divorce Hardcover – October 28, 2013
by Edward Kruk (Author) In custody battles over the children of separated parents, the prevailing standard of evaluating what is in the "best interests of the child" has been scrutinized because of the discretionary nature of what is "best" and because of the bias in favour of the child residing in one "primary residence." In response, a consensus is beginning to emerge that it is vitally important that children maintain meaningful relationships with both parents after divorce. In The Equal Parent Presumption, Edward Kruk proposes a child-focused approach based on a standard that considers the best interests of the child from the perspective of the child and a responsibility-to-needs orientation to social justice for children and families. Challenging previous research and received ideas, Kruk presents an evidence-based framework of equal parental responsibility as the most effective means of ensuring the protection of family relationships following divorce, and shielding children from ongoing parental conflict and family violence. The existing system of determining parental rights and responsibilities is harming families. The Equal Parent Presumption addresses a major barrier to the principle of gender equality in parenting after divorce, and proposes a viable alternative to sole custody in the form of a legal presumption of shared and equal parenting. The Routledge International Handbook of Shared Parenting and Best Interest of the Childby José Manuel de Torres Perea, Edward Kruk , et al. | May 27, 2021
Hardcover $243.84 $227.79 Kindle $36.99 This multidisciplinary volume offers an essential, comprehensive study of perspectives on the scope and application of the best interests of the child and focuses mainly on its application in relation to child custody. With expert contributions from psychological, sociological and legal perspectives, it offers scientific analysis and debate on whether it should be the primary consideration in deciding child custody cases in cases of divorce or separation or whether it should be one of several primary considerations. It explores complex dilemmas inherent in shared parenting and whether the advantages it offers children are sufficient when compared to attributing custody to one parent and limiting visitation rights of the other. Offering a comprehensive analysis of this complex topic, chapters provide detailed insight into the current state of research in this area, as well as expert guidelines aimed at resolving the controversies when parents agree or disagree over their children’s living arrangements. Cutting-edge topics explored include: transnational shared parenting; alternative dispute resolution; breastfeeding parents; religious disputes between parents and the psychological, social and economic factors that affect shared parenting. The Routledge International Handbook of Shared Parenting and Best Interest of the Child will be essential reading for scholars and graduate students in law, psychology, sociology and economics interested in shared parenting and family law. Divorce and Disengagement: Patterns of Fatherhood Within and Beyond Marriage.by Edward Kruk | Sep 1, 2003
Paperback $19.62 This book's purpose is to better portray divorced fatherhood and to provide family practitioners and policymakers with an empirically based understanding of the impact of divorce on non-custodial fathers, and of fathers' disengagement from their children after divorce. Mediation and Conflict Resolution in Social Work and Human Services 1st Edition
by Edward Kruk (Author) Buy used: $6.16 Sold by ThriftBooks-Baltimore This timely collection written from a social work perspective includes original chapters by leading experts in specific fields of mediation and conflict resolution. Each chapter examines a field of practice, describes the actual mediation/conflict resolution process, considers current debates and research, and provides alternatives to mediation. Gender, race, class, and cultural diversity issues are integrated throughout the text, with a separate chapter addressing mediation and multicultural reality. Divorced Fathers: Children`s Needs and Parental Responsibilities (Fernwood Basics Series) Paperback – Illustrated, February 1, 2011
by Edward Kruk (Author) Once mainly breadwinners and disciplinarians, fathers are becoming increasingly involved and invested in their children’s lives. Examining how this changing role has affected fathers’ experiences of divorce and the loss of guardianship that too often follows, this exploration offers a glimpse into the emotional state and perspectives of fathers during the divorce transition. Ultimately, this account states that children benefit most from the love and support of both parents and argues for active parenting following divorce. Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: The Narcissistic Abuse Survivors Guide to Healing and Recovery Paperback – October 19, 2017
by Randi G Fine (Author) Close Encounters is a comprehensive, compassionate and supportive guide to understanding the unique and complex nature of narcissistic abuse and the emotionally crippling syndrome that results from it. This groundbreaking book gives narcissistic abuse survivors the most complete and trustworthy road map to guide them through the healing process, into recovery, and ultimately to the freedom and happiness they deserve.Narcissistic abuse survivors, concerned supporters, and helping professionals will find the most up-to-date information on the psychological, emotional and physical effects of NPD abuse. Readers also learn how narcissistic abuse infiltrates various settings including work, family-of-origin, friendships and romantic relationships. Written in a non-labeling, non-judgmental style, survivors will find this book highly educating and empowering. To those people in your life who cannot possibly understand what you have endured, you no longer have to explain. Just hand them this book. Cliffedge Road: A Memoir Paperback – November 3, 2019
by Randi Fine (Author) World renowned narcissistic abuse expert and respected leader in her field, Randi Fine writes a brutally honest, gripping autobiographical account of her bizarre life growing up with a narcissistic mother and the pattern of adult trauma that follows. With Ms. Fine’s signature “have coffee with me and chat” writing style, her intriguing stories, and her host of fascinating, memorable, three dimensional characters that leap off the page, this book is a page turner. Cliffedge Road is the first and only book to characterize the life-long progression of complications caused by narcissistic child abuse. But the true focus of the story is the author’s dauntless determination to change herself and rise above the lot in life she’s been given. In a serious tone lightened by strategic bouts of comic relief, Ms. Fine masterfully evokes a range of emotions. Using her life as an example she teaches us that no matter the circumstances there is always hope. Nothing is impossible. Miracles do happen. Understanding Parental Alienation: A Comprehensive Book for Targeted Parents: How It Happens, Why It Happens, and What You Can Do for Yourself and Your Children Paperback – December 4, 2022
by Dr. Sharie Stines PsyD (Author), Patricia Harriman MFA (Author) See all formats and editions
The Incredible Shrinking Girl: A Divorce Story Hardcover – May 21, 2019
by Julie Verner PhD (Author), Jillian Verner (Illustrator) Penny can’t figure out why she is getting smaller and smaller. Her roller skates are too big. Her clothes no longer fit. And, she can no longer reach the kitchen sink or her desk at school! But, when a kind teacher notices something is wrong and shares her own experience of getting smaller, Penny discovers she is not alone, and that her parents’ divorce need not be her story. Children Held Hostage: Identifying Brainwashed Children, Presenting a Case, and Crafting Solutions Paperback – Illustrated, August 7, 2014
by Stanley S. Clawar (Author), Brynne V. Rivlin (Author) Kindle $61.59 Paperback $69.57 In Children Held Hostage, Stanley Clawar and Brynne Rivlin use important new research involving over 1,000 families to demonstrate that children can and are being used by parents in the divorce battle. Their research shows how negative actions by parents toward their children show up in court proceedings where children testify or are questioned by mental health professionals. The major issue in confronting this problem of programmed and brainwashed children has been identification of a child alienated by one parent against the other; proving it in court; and then finding a solution that not only works, but that a court will buy into. The updated edition of Children Held Hostage explains these issues in detail, with practice-focused explanations on every step in the process. The authors offer further insights into gender issues and differences. Other new material includes a social-psychological profile of programmers and brainwashers; identification of the most commonly asked questions by judges, target parents, lawyers and children; an expanded social explanation to the causes, impact, and interventions; development of an abductor profile; charts to visualize key findings and processes; and much more. Restoring Family Connections Paperback – Illustrated, December 24, 2019
by AMY BAKER (Author), PAUL FINE (Author), ALIANNA LACHEEN-BAKER (Author) Broken relationships between adult children and their parents is a widespread phenomenon. While the parent-child attachment relationship is of critical importance for the child in the early years of life, the parent-child relationship continues to be a source of great importance over the course of the individual's life span for both the child and the parent. For adults and adult children who are estranged/alienated from each other, the pain and dissatisfaction never fully go away. Despite the prevalence of the problem of ruptured relationships, there are few resources available for mental health professionals working with this population. This book provides a tool for clinicians to turn to when they are working with adult children and their parents seeking to resolve conflict, improve communication, and enhance their relationships. Co-Parenting With A Toxic Ex: What To Do When Your Ex-Spouse Tries To Turn The Kids Against You Paperback – May 1, 2014
by Amy J.L. Baker (Author) Protect your child from alienation and loyalty conflicts. During and after a difficult divorce, it’s easy for your relationship with your kids to become strained—especially if you are dealing with a toxic ex who bad-mouths you in front of your children, accuses you of being a bad parent, and even attempts to “replace” you with a new partner in your children’s lives. Your children may become confused, conflicted, angry, anxious, or depressed—and you may feel powerless. But there is help. In this guide, you’ll discover a positive parenting approach to dealing with a hostile ex-spouse. You'll learn the best ways to protect your children from painful loyalty conflicts, how to avoid parental alienation syndrome, and techniques for talking to your children in a way that fosters honesty and trust. Co-parenting with a toxic ex can be challenging, but with the right tools you can protect your kids and make your relationship with them stronger than ever. Adult Children of Parental Alienation Syndrome: Breaking the Ties That Bind Audible Audiobook – Unabridged
Amy J. L. Baker PhD (Author), Madeleine Dauer (Narrator), Tantor Audio (Publisher) An examination of adults who have been manipulated by divorcing parents. Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) occurs when divorcing parents use children as pawns, trying to turn the child against the other parent. This book examines the impact of PAS on adults and offers strategies and hope for dealing with the long-term effects. Surviving Parental Alienation: A Journey of Hope and Healing Audible Audiobook – Unabridged
Amy J.L. Baker PhD (Author), Paul R. Fine LCSW (Author), Madeleine Dauer (Narrator), & 1 more Half of all marriages end, and, when they do, most parents hope to achieve a "good divorce" in which they can amicably raise their children with their former spouse. Unfortunately, about 20% of divorces are high-conflict, involving frequent visits to court, allegations of abuse, and chronic disagreements regarding parenting schedules. In response to this conflict, some children become aligned with one parent against the other - even a parent who has done nothing to warrant the hostile rejection of their formerly loving children. These "targeted" parents suffer from the loss of time with their children, the pain of watching their children become distant, even cruel, and the uncertainty of not knowing if and when their children will come back to them. These parents are on a painful journey with an uncertain outcome. Surviving Parental Alienation fills the tremendous need for concrete help for these parents. Too often parental alienation stories that are shared by word of mouth, on the internet, or in books depict unending pain and frightening outcomes. Surviving Parental Alienation provides true stories and information about parents who have reconnected with their lost and stolen children, and offers better insight and understanding into what exactly parental alienation is and how to handle it. Getting Through My Parents' Divorce: A Workbook for Children Coping with Divorce, Parental Alienation, and Loyalty Conflicts Paperback – July 1, 2015 by Amy J. L. Baker PhD (Author), Katherine C. Andre PhD (Author) Paperback $14.40 Is your child stuck in the middle of a high-conflict divorce? In Getting Through My Parents' Divorce, two psychologists and experts in parental alienation offer a fun and engaging workbook to help kids work through stressful or confusing emotions and feel safe and loved—no matter what. Divorce is never easy. But for kids who have parents in conflict with one another, or where one parent is so hostile that he or she is actively trying to undermine the kids’ relationship with the other parent, divorce can be unbearable. This workbook is designed especially for kids, and includes helpful tips and exercises to help them deal with the negative impact of custody disputes, understand and identify their feelings, learn to cope with stress and other complex emotions, and feel secure. Written by two leading experts in child psychology, this easy-to-use workbook includes a number of helpful suggestions to guide children though a number of possible scenarios, such as what to do if one parent says mean and untrue things about the other parent; what to do if a parent asks them to keep secrets from another parent; or what to do if one parent attempts to replace the other parent with a new spouse. If you have or know a child that is dealing with a difficult divorce, this workbook will give them the tools needed to move past loyalty conflicts and the difficult emotions that can arise when parents don’t get along. Working With Alienated Children and Families: A Clinical Guidebook 1st Edition by Amy J. L. Baker (Editor), S. Richard Sauber (Editor) This edited volume is written by and for mental health professionals who work directly with alienated children and their parents. The chapters are written by leaders in the field, all of whom know how vexing parental alienation can be for mental health professionals. No matter how the professional intersects with families affected by alienation, be it through individual treatment, reunification therapy, a school setting, or support groups, he or she needs to consider how to make proper assessments, how to guard against bias, and when and how to involve the court system, among other challenges. The cutting edge clinical interventions presented in this book will help professionals answer these questions and help them to help their clients. The authors present a range of clinical options such as parent education, psycho-educational programs for children, and reunification programs for children and parents that make this volume a useful reference and practical guide. The High-Conflict Custody Battle: Protect Yourself and Your Kids from a Toxic Divorce, False Accusations, and Parental Alienation Paperback – November 1, 2014 by Amy J. L. Baker PhD (Author), J. Michael Bone PhD (Author), Brian Ludmer BComm LLB (Author) Is your ex-spouse trying to gain custody of your kids? Has he or she launched a campaign to make you look like a bad parent, both in the eyes of your children and the law? You aren’t alone. Unfortunately, high-conflict custody battles are all-too-common in today’s world. So how can you arm yourself with the mental and legal resources needed to survive this difficult time and keep your kids safe? In The High-Conflict Custody Battle, a team of legal and psychology experts present a practical guidebook for people like you who are engaged in a high-conflict custody battle. If you are dealing with an overtly hostile, inflammatory, deceitful, or manipulative ex-spouse, you will learn how to find and work with an attorney and prepare for a custody evaluation. The book also provides helpful tips you can use to defend yourself against false accusations, and gives a realistic portrayal of what to expect during a legal fight. Going through a divorce is hard, but going through a custody battle can feel like war. Don’t go in unprepared. With this book as your guide, you will be able to navigate this difficult process and learn powerful skills that will help you maintain a healthy relationship with your kids, fight unfair accusations, and uphold your rights as a parent. Bonded to the Abuser: How Victims Make Sense of Childhood Abuse by Amy J.L. Baker author of Surviving Parental Alienation: A Journey of Hope and Healing and Bonded to the Abuser: How Victims Make Sense of Childhood Abuse (Author), Mel Schneiderman (Author) Hardcover $19.99 - $24.23 Tens of thousands of children are removed from home each year due to some form of child maltreatment, usually physical neglect, physical abuse, or sexual abuse, although sometimes for emotional abuse as well. An additional significant number of children are victims of child maltreatment but remain in their home. Extensive research reveals the far reaching and long lasting negative impact of maltreatment on child victims, including on their physical, social, emotional, and behavioral functioning. One particularly troubling and complicated aspect is how the child victim forms (and maintains) a “traumatic bond” with his abuser, even becoming protective and defensive of that person despite the pain and suffering they have caused. This book will provide the reader with the essential experience of understanding how children make meaning of being maltreated by a parent, and how these traumatic bonds form and last. Through an examination of published memoirs of abuse, the authors analyze and reveal the commonalities in the stories to uncover the ways in which adult victims of childhood abuse understand and digest the traumatic experiences of their childhoods. This understanding can inform interventions and treatments designed for this vulnerable population and can help family and friends of victims understand more fully the maltreatment experience “from the inside out.” Research Methods in Child Welfare by Amy J. L. Baker (Author), Benjamin Charvat (Author) Hardcover $9.00 - $16.06 Paperback $8.88 - $37.86 Social service agencies are facing the same expectations in quality management and outcomes as private companies, compelling staff members and researchers to provide and interpret valid and useful research to stakeholders at all levels in the field. Child welfare agencies are particularly scrutinized. In this textbook, two highly experienced researchers offer the best techniques for conducting sound research in the field. Covering not only the methodological challenges but also the real-life constraints of research in child welfare settings, Amy J. L. Baker and Benjamin J. Charvat present a volume that can be used both for general research methods and as a practical guide for conducting research in the field of child welfare. Baker and Charvat devote an entire chapter to ethical issues involved in researching children and their families and the limits of confidentiality within this population. They weave a discussion of ethics throughout the book, and each chapter begins with a scenario that presents a question or problem to work through, enabling readers to fully grasp the methods in the context of a specific setting or area of concern. Special sections concentrate on the value of continuous quality-improvement activities, which enable the collection and analysis of data outside of the strictures of publishable research, and the implementation of program evaluations, which can be helpful in obtaining further research and programmatic funding. The Parental Alienation Syndrome: A Family Therapy and Collaborative Systems Approach to Amelioration by Linda J. Gottlieb (Author) In this thought-provok ing book, Ms. Gottlieb attempts to resolve the controversies surrounding Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) by providing substantial empirical evidence from her treatment cases in support of the eight symptoms which child psychiatrist, Richard Gardner, had identified as occurring in the PAS child, and she further exemplifies the commonality of the alienating maneuvers among the alienating parents. The author redefines the typically-held characterization of the parents' relationship as portrayed in the pertinent literature and accepted by most PAS-aware professionals. Numerous case examples are explored: horrific tales of manufactured child abuse; referrals to child protective services (CPS) resulting in suspension of visits between targeted parents and their children; meritless reports to police alleging domestic violence in support of orders of protection which slander and stigmatize targeted parents; exclusionary tactics preventing targeted parents' involvement in their children's medical, educational, social lives and activities; and depletion of targeted parents' resources due to legal fees required to defend himself/herself and to obtain judicial enforcement of parental rights. Ms. Gottlieb methodically documents that PAS is a form of emotional child abuse of the severest kind. The author provides an unprecedented number of treatment summaries, which demonstrate the effectiveness of structural family therapy in treating the PAS family. To further elucidate the subject, the author interviewed several matrimonial attorneys, Law Guardians, and forensic evaluators regarding their experiences with PAS, and she incorporated their thoughts into her recommendations as to how the mental health and judicial communities should resolve this situation in the best interests of the child. "New Rules" are suggested which encourage a collaborative rather than an adversarial approach to child custody. This book will be an excellent resource for parents who are divorcing or are in conflict, for adult-child victims of PAS, for mature children of divorcing parents, for judges, for Law Guardians, for matrimonial attorneys, for therapists, for child protective personnel, for law enforcement----and for the professional rescuer who believes that a child must be saved from a parent. Parental Alienation, DSM-5, and ICD-11 (American Series in Behavioral Science and Law) (American Series in Behavioral Science & Law) by William Bernet (Author, Editor) Parental alienation is an important phenomenon that mental health professionals should know about and thoroughly understand, especially those who work with children, adolescents, divorced adults, and adults whose parents divorced when they were children. In this book, the authors define parental alienation as a mental condition in which a child - usually one whose parents are engaged in a high-conflict divorce - allies himself or herself strongly with one parent (the preferred parent) and rejects a relationship with the other parent (the alienated parent) without legitimate justification. This process leads to a tragic outcome when the child and the alienated parent, who previously had a loving and mutually satisfying relationship, lose the nurture and joy of that relationship for many years and perhaps for their lifetimes. We estimate that 1 percent of children and adolescents in the U.S. experience parental alienation. When the phenomenon is properly recognized, this condition is preventable and treatable in many instances. The authors of this book believe that parental alienation is not simply a minor aberration in the life of a family, but a serious mental condition. Because of the false belief that the alienated parent is a dangerous or unworthy person, the child loses one of the most important relationships in his or her life. This book contains much information about the validity, reliability, and prevalence of parental alienation. It also includes a comprehensive international bibliography regarding parental alienation with more than 600 citations. In order to bring life to the definitions and the technical writing, several short clinical vignettes have been included. These vignettes are based on actual families and real events, but have been modified to protect the privacy of both the parents and children. Toxic Divorce: A Workbook for Alienated Parents Kindle Edition
by Dr. Kathleen Reay (Author) Are you an alienated parent dealing with a toxic divorce? Is your former spouse making derogatory remarks about you to your children? Is your ex resisting or refusing to cooperate by not allowing you access to your children? If you answer yes to one or more questions, then parental alienation (PA) or parental alienation syndrome (PAS) may be occurring. This workbook will provide the knowledge, understanding, real-life examples, step-by-step directions, and powerful strategies to deal with the ramifications of PA or PAS. Alienated parents will learn effective ways to overcome negative thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that can stand in the way of rebuilding loving relationships with their children. The Power of Two: Secrets to a Strong and Loving MarriagePaperback – May 1, 1997 by Susan Heitler (Author), Paula Singer (Photographer) Paperback $14.52 This book details the communication and conflict-resolution skills that happy couples use to deal with differences. Psychologist Susan Heitler clarifies the basics of collaborative dialogue and shows how these techniques can be applied to even the most sensitive issues in ways that respond to both partners' needs and help to strengthen their relationship. Use this book to learn strategies for making decisions together, resolving conflicts, recovering after upsets, and converting difficulties into opportunities for growth. Prescriptions Without Pills: For Relief from Depression, Anger, Anxiety, and More Paperback – July 19, 2016 by Susan Heitler Ph.D. (Author) Have you ever wanted relief from feeling discouraged? worried? irritated? locked in habits that ultimately harm you? These negative states--depression, anxiety, anger and addictive habits--are the common colds of mental health. Like mild physical illnesses however, they can cause much distress and, if left untreated, can lead to worse difficulties. "PRESCRIPTIONS Without Pills" offers techniques for resolving the problems that have been provoking your uncomfortable emotions. "PRESCRIPTIONS" guides you back to feeling good and then shows you how to sustain feelings of well-being. Avoid the risk of negative side effects like weight gain and mental dullness that can result from taking pills to reduce your negative emotions. Instead implement these drug-free prescriptions. Use the prescriptions on your own or with help from a therapist. Illustrated with engaging stories from the many clients Dr. Heitler has worked with in her forty-plus years as an internationally known psychologist and psychotherapy innovator, "PRESCRIPTIONS Without Pills" aims to help you navigate the route back to well-being and learn skills that can help you to stay there. Legal Abuse Syndrome: A Preventable Public Health Problem Kindle Edition by Karin Huffer (Author) If you’ve ever felt abused by the legal system, or had a friend or family member suffer traumatic stress having to go to court, then you will love this book. The eight-steps outlined in this book address the needs of litigants suffering extreme stress in court.Abuses typically observed are: the legal system being used as a weapon, i.e. one spouse using the court to punish the other in divorce proceedings; courts used for foreclosures and other transfers of property or assets unlawfully; false accusations and lying to the extent of fraud on the tribunal; threat of court used to bully, intimidate, harass and impoverish to cause a win by attrition. These methods destroy one’s ability to defend and protect themselves or to afford representation and costs of litigation. In this book are unique, step-by-step insightful ways to learn how to navigate the system and not feel bullied, tricked, or defeated again. In fact, properly used, the judicial system provides ways to help you by cooperation with accommodations through federal mandates. If you have been injured by the experience or are sick, suffering with invisible disabilities you will learn how to cope more effectively even in these adversarial challenging situations. To Learn more about Dr. Huffer and our services, please visit: https://EqualAccessAdvocates.com/ I'm Coming Back Paperback – December 21, 2021
by Donna Foster Zahid (Author) Donna Foster Zahid was a young mother looking forward to a bright future with her husband and young son. One day, that bright future turned into a dark nightmare when her husband whisked their son off to his native country, Pakistan, and announced that the young boy would remain there. Effectively kidnapped, the boy had no idea where his parents were nor the anguish his mother was going through. We are all led to believe that our government is there for us. Donna immediately went through "the system" of government help and found stone wall after stone wall. With no other choice, she took matters into her own hands. Donna tells a stirring and compelling story of clandestine meetings, tense moments with gun-toting Pakistani officials, and a lot of prayer. The happy ending reunites Donna with her son. Seeing my God part the sea, knowing faith opened every door along the way! Legal Abuse Syndrome: 8 Steps for Avoiding the Traumatic Stress Caused by the Justice System Paperback – July 23, 2013 by Dr. Karin Huffer (Author) What's wrong with me My life and priorities seem irrelevant to the court. Are you ensnared in the judicial system? Fearful, incredulous, isolated, beyond rage . . . feeling "alienated" This unique book conjoins law, therapy, and research revealing a subtype of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder called Legal Abuse Syndrome. Legal Abuse Syndrome helps victims overcome psychological devastation caused by prolonged injustice. Through facts, graphics, and heart rendering vignettes readers grasp elements of this psychic injury, recognize its causes, and benefit from the therapeutic steps provided. This book is a self-help tool for cumulative trauma. When systems of care, i.e. the judicial system, cause or exacerbate medical conditions due to extreme stress, the dilemma presents a public health problem as well as a multidisciplinary legal/medical professional challenge. "There is nothing wrong with you" You need a game changer that bolsters your resilience and confidence. Eight self-help steps guide you through the toughest times of your litigation illustrated by gripping cases of human courage and principle against the massive power of the judicial system. The people you meet in this book will encourage you. James' case portrays civil court being skewed to cover up a felony while fraud on the court is recklessly used to hide the facts. The issues become twisted into a dizzying "house of mirrors" with lies taking on a life of their own in the courtroom. When rage is exceeded in the human experience, one either explodes or implodes. Explosion usually results in violations of civility and law complicating the problem. Implosion leads to health consequences and bitterness. Legal Abuse Syndrome guides you toward an alternative that allows the victim to skillfully stay in the fight. Along the way, there are gifts in reviving the spirit of justice, a staple of a civilized society" Mindful Co-parenting: A Child-Friendly Path through Divorce
Paperback – November 6, 2014 by Jeremy S. Gaies (Author), James B. Morris Jr. (Author) Being good parents is hard even when you’re happily married, but for separated or divorced couples, parenting can be particularly daunting. There is hope. Mindful Co-Parenting provides divorced parents a practical way through the process that protects their children. In this compact, step-by-step guide, written in a supportive yet direct style, clinical psychologists Jeremy S. Gaies, Psy.D., and James B. Morris Jr., Ph.D., identify what matters most to kids and describe the importance of parents being mindful of their children’s needs and wants. Starting with the question of whether or not divorce is the best option for your family, the book walks you through the process, from choosing the most child-friendly divorce proceedings, to navigating co-parenting after the papers are signed, to handling the future challenges of step parenting and other issues that may arise. By simply paying attention and planning ahead, you and your ex can reduce the potential negative effects of divorce on your family. Learn how to create a comprehensive parenting plan that can begin to establish a new norm for the benefit of your family’s new future. The APSAC Handbook on Child Maltreatment 4th Edition
by J. Bart Klika (Editor), Jon R. Conte (Editor) The Fourth Edition of The APSAC Handbook on Child Maltreatment provides readers with the most up-to-date theory, research, and best practices in the field of child abuse and neglect. Edited by leading experts J. Bart Klika and Jon R. Conte, this best seller covers all aspects of child maltreatment, from physical abuse to sexual abuse and neglect, focusing on etiology, consequences, investigation, and treatment and systems. Updates include new content on assessment and mental health interventions, prevention, as well as global perspectives. Comprehensive and easy to read, the handbook will serve as an invaluable resource for students and professionals―both emerging and seasoned―across disciplines, but part of the same movement dedicated to improving the lives of maltreated children. Divorce Casualties, Second Edition: Understanding Parental Alienation Paperback – October 16, 2008
by Douglas Darnall (Author) Some parents consciously, blatantly, and even maliciously denigrate their ex-spouse through negative comments and actions. Others simply sigh or tense up at the mention of the targeted parent, causing guilt and anxiety in the children. The result is a child full of hate, fear, and rejection toward an unknowing and often undeserving parent. Exploring issues such as secrecy, spying, false accusations, threats and discipline, Divorce Casualties recognizes the often subtle causes of alienation, teaching you to prevent or minimize its damaging effects on your children. Dr. Darnall's practical techniques for understanding the effects of alienation, including characteristics of alienators, symptoms of alienators, a self-report inventory and exercises, and real-life examples, will help even the most well-intentioned of parents renew their commitment to helping their child maintain a healthy, happy relationship with both parents. Parent-Child Reunification: A Guide to Legal and Forensic PStrategies by Stanley Clawar (American Bar Association, 2020) https://www.americanbar.org/products/inv/book/394777244/?q=&wt=json&start=0 NON-MEMBERS $89.95 MEMBERS $79.95 SECTION MEMBERS $69.95 The need to repair damaged relationships that have occurred between a parent and a child is one of the biggest and most salient issues before the family courts today. This thoughtful and detailed guide helps family lawyers and related professionals understand and aid in the process of reconnecting parents and children who have had their relationship damaged by family matters. From Heartbreak to Healing: Resolving Parental Alienation Paperback – January 11, 2020
by Cara E Koch (Author)
Do you know that children are being damaged for life by being turned against one of their parents in the frequently unrecognized brainwashing process called parental alienation? Did you know that it is a form of emotional child abuse? • Is there Badmouthing directed toward you? • Has contact been limited by the other parent? • Are you blocked or prevented from seeing your child? • Has your child accused you of abandonment or not loving him? • Does your child think you are dangerous and can’t be trusted? • Have you ever been degraded or put down by the other parent in front of your child? • Does your child believe you created financial hardship for her or the other parent? All the above "teaches" a child to reject a parent, which also teaches the child to reject himself. After all, your child is part of both of you. When alienation happens, three core messages are generated: 1. The other parent abandoned and does not love the child. 2. The other parent is dangerous and cannot be counted on. 3. The child is totally dependent on the alienating parent. Therefore, a child’s emotional separation from the alienated parent is seeded and fueled by untruths from the other parent. From Heartbreak to Healing reveals the consequences of and shares a guide map of what to do if this is happening to you. Conversations That Matter: Talking with Children and Teenagers in Ways That Help Paperback – May 29, 2015
by Margot Sunderland (Author) So many children and young people in our society are hurting. Research indicates that more children are depressed, anxious or locked in anger than ever before, with all the problems that creates at home, school and in society at large when emotional pain gets expressed through behaviour or physical symptoms. Many well-intentioned adults really want to help when children suffer because of parental conflict, divorce, family financial worries, loss and bereavement, trauma, bullying, isolation, general growing up issues, and worse. But we often lack the confidence and key skills to know how to help in ways that will genuinely support the child or teenager to properly process what is troubling them, and so reach a more positive place of genuine hope and optimism. Conversations that Matter, the latest book by Margot Sunderland, offers a wealth of tools and techniques to empower parents and practitioners to connect to children and young people through conversation, in life changing ways.Dr Sunderland is widely acknowledged as one of the UK's leading experts in child counselling and therapy, as well as being a best-selling author of books for parents and professionals and co-founder of both the Institute of Arts in Therapy and Education and The Centre for Child Mental Health, London. Her life's work has been to find the most effective ways of helping children and young people in distress, underpinning her practice with cutting-edge findings from the fields of affective neuroscience, developmental psychology and the study of trauma. She is also a passionate advocate for the healing power of the creative arts as a means to reach troubled children, when words are not enough. This long-awaited book will give readers a thorough, evidence-based and inspiring grounding in every aspect of talking with children who are hurting, from how to build a trusting relationship with the child, how to deepen the dialogue between you and make it meaningful, when to work directly or indirectly, how to handle the various inevitable challenges that will arise when talking to children about the difficult stuff, and more.Packed with creative possibilities, and illustrated with numerous 'conversations', this book can be re-turned to again and again whilst helping children and young people work through any life issue, past or present. The book also contains photocopiable worksheets, and introduces a completely new therapeutic story specifically written to help children who are struggling with trauma and shock. Dr Sunderland's book will be of benefit to professionals as well as parents, carers and other adults who want the conversations they have with children and teenagers to genuinely help, and to matter. Parent-Child Relations: Context, Research, and Application 4th Edition
by Phyllis Heath (Author) Note: This is the bound book only and does not include access to the Enhanced Pearson eText. To order the Enhanced Pearson eText packaged with a bound book, use ISBN 0134290054. This life-span approach to parent-child relations gives students a comprehensive, contemporary look at theories, research, and techniques within historical and cultural contexts. It covers every stage of development, including older parents and their adult children, and uses an inclusive approach that looks at a variety of different family contexts, such as foster families, military families, and families with an LGBTQ member, as well as the influence of culture and ethnicity on family beliefs and behaviors. The first chapter focuses on the history of theoretical and research influences of childrearing to help students understand why parents today hold certain beliefs regarding how to raise children. Theory and research are then interwoven through the book. An early chapter on strategies and techniques also sets the stage for upcoming discussions of parent-child relations. Written with the student in mind, the book presents numerous examples. Critical thinking questions in every chapter encourage students to stop and consider their views regarding the material, and Spotlight features throughout provide examples of the influence of technology, diversity, and poverty on families. The Enhanced Pearson eText version includes embedded video examples and Test Your Knowledge quizzes with feedback that enable students to check their understanding of the material. Improve mastery and retention with the Enhanced Pearson eText* The Enhanced Pearson eText provides a rich, interactive learning environment designed to improve student mastery of content. The Enhanced Pearson eText is:
*The Pearson eText App is available on Google Play and in the App Store. It requires Android OS 3.1-4, a 7” or 10” tablet, or iPad iOS 5.0 or later. Preserving Family Ties: An Authoritative Guide to Understanding Divorce and Child Custody, for Parents and Family Professionals Hardcover – February 2, 2018
by Mark David Roseman Ph.D. CFLE (Author) Preserving Family Ties is a timely, interdisciplinary guidebook for pro se parents, attorneys, GAL’s, therapists and family court judges to more fully understand the fundamental social science to craft better child custody orders that are truly in the child’s best interests. Educators, social workers, medical practitioners and psychologists will find a common understanding of life’s complexities and how they can work together to improve child outcomes when parents separate. The text is a hand’s on journey through the science of family change and will be of further value for students in professional human service and related fields. It offers child welfare advocates with opportunities for family court reform and policy makers with guidance for new and improved co-parenting legislation and child protection. Says Dr. Richard Sauber, author and forensic psychologist, “Dr. Roseman engenders to emphasize the importance of recognizing the multiple threads of variables that appear regardless of orientation such as culture, gender and sexism, heritage, psychopathology, parental intellectual capacity, physical abilities, addictions and various displays of substance abuse disorder and finally psychological states that the parents present.” Parents Do Make a Difference: How to Raise Kids with Solid Character, Strong Minds, and Caring Hearts Paperback – May 7, 1999
by Michele Borba Ed.D. (Author), Michele Borba (Author) Paperback $17.95 For Teachers and Parents of Children to Age 12 Finally, a book that shows you how to teach kids the eight indispensable skills-self-confidence, self-awareness,communication, problem solving, getting along, goal setting,perseverance, and empathy-they'll need for living confident, happy,and productive lives. Filled with step-by-step advice, practical ideas, and real-life examples, Parents Do Make a Difference puts field-tested tools into the hands of every parent and teacher who wants their children to succeed. When Parents Part: How Mothers and Fathers Can Help Their Children Deal with Separation and Divorce Paperback – October 18, 2016
by Penelope Leach (Author) Using the latest scientific research in child development, Penelope Leach, author of the best-selling Your Baby & Child, details the effects of divorce on children in five stages of life—infants, toddlers, primary-school children, teenagers, and young adults—some of whom are far more deeply affected than previously thought. She explains recent studies that overturn common assumptions, showing, for example, that many standard custody arrangements for young children can be harmful. Leach’s advice is meticulously considered and exhaustive, covering everything from access, custody, and financial and legal considerations to managing separate sets of technology in two households, and she includes the voices of parents and children to illustrate her points. Above all, she holds up “mutual parenting” as the ideal way to co-parent after a divorce, offering concrete ways for parents to put responsiveness to their children’s needs ahead of their feelings about each other. Children Come First: Mediation, Not Litigation When Marriage Ends Paperback – January 10, 2011
by Howard H. Irving (Author) For three decades Dr. Howard H. Irving has championed the use of divorce mediation outside the adversarial court system to save couples and their children from the bitter legacy of legal wrangling and winner-takes-all custody battles. Now, calling on his vast experience mediating more than 2,000 cases, Irving has written Children Come First directly for couples contemplating or undergoing divorce. In this book the author takes a tripartite approach that points out:
How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk (The How To Talk Series) Paperback – February 7, 2012
by Adele Faber (Author), Elaine Mazlish (Author) The ultimate “parenting bible” (The Boston Globe) with a new foreword—and available as an ebook for the first time—a timeless, beloved book on how to effectively communicate with your child from the #1 New York Times bestselling authors. Internationally acclaimed experts on communication between parents and children, Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish “are doing for parenting today what Dr. Spock did for our generation” (Parent Magazine). Now, this bestselling classic includes fresh insights and suggestions as well as the author’s time-tested methods to solve common problems and build foundations for lasting relationships, including innovative ways to: · Cope with your child's negative feelings, such as frustration, anger, and disappointment · Express your strong feelings without being hurtful · Engage your child's willing cooperation · Set firm limits and maintain goodwill · Use alternatives to punishment that promote self-discipline · Understand the difference between helpful and unhelpful praise · Resolve family conflicts peacefully Enthusiastically praised by parents and professionals around the world, the down-to-earth, respectful approach of Faber and Mazlish makes relationships with children of all ages less stressful and more rewarding. How to Talk so Little Kids Will Listen: A Survival Guide to Life with Children Ages 2-7 (The How To Talk Series) Paperback – Illustrated, January 10, 2017
by Joanna Faber (Author), Julie King (Author) A must-have guide for anyone who lives or works with young kids, with an introduction by Adele Faber, coauthor of How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk, the international mega-bestseller The Boston Globe dubbed “The Parenting Bible.” For nearly forty years, parents have turned to How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk for its respectful and effective solutions to the unending challenges of raising children. Now, in response to growing demand, Adele’s daughter, Joanna Faber, along with Julie King, tailor How to Talk’s powerful communication skills to parents of children ages two to seven. Faber and King, each a parenting expert in her own right, share their wisdom accumulated over years of conducting How To Talk workshops with parents, teachers, and pediatricians. With a lively combination of storytelling, cartoons, and observations from their workshops, they provide concrete tools and tips that will transform your relationship with the children in your life. What do you do with a little kid who…won’t brush her teeth…screams in his car seat…pinches the baby...refuses to eat vegetables…throws books in the library...runs rampant in the supermarket? Organized by common challenges and conflicts, this book is an essential manual of communication strategies, including a chapter that addresses the special needs of children with sensory processing and autism spectrum disorders. This user-friendly guide will empower parents and caregivers of young children to forge rewarding, joyful relationships with terrible two-year-olds, truculent three-year-olds, ferocious four-year-olds, foolhardy five-year-olds, self-centered six-year-olds, and the occasional semi-civilized seven-year-old. And, it will help little kids grow into self-reliant big kids who are cooperative and connected to their parents, teachers, siblings, and peers. How To Talk Collection 5 Books Set (How to talk so Kids Will listen, How to talk Series) Paperback – January 1, 2018
by Joanna Faber (Author), Julie King (Author), Elaine Mazlish (Author) How To Talk 5 Book Collection Set Titles in This Set How To Talk So That Kids Will Listen, How To Talk To Kids So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk, How To Talk So Kids Can Learn At Home And In School, How To Talk: Siblings Without Rivalry, How To Talk So Teens Will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk 5 Love Languages Of Children: The Secret To Loving Children Effectively 1st Edition
by Gary Chapman (Author) You know you love your child. But how can you make sure your child knows it? The #1 New York Times bestselling The 5 Love Languages® has helped millions of couples learn the secret to building a love that lasts. Now discover how to speak your child’s love language in a way that he or she understands. Dr. Gary Chapman and Dr. Ross Campbell help you:
Discover your child's primary language—then speak it—and you will be well on your way to a stronger relationship with your flourishing child. The Incredible Shrinking Girl: A Divorce Story Hardcover – Picture Book, May 21, 2019
by Julie Verner PhD (Author), Jillian Verner (Illustrator) Penny can’t figure out why she is getting smaller and smaller. Her roller skates are too big. Her clothes no longer fit. And, she can no longer reach the kitchen sink or her desk at school! But, when a kind teacher notices something is wrong and shares her own experience of getting smaller, Penny discovers she is not alone, and that her parents’ divorce need not be her story. Building Self-Esteem in Children and Teens Who Are Adopted or Fostered 1st Edition
by Sue Cornbluth (Author) Just because children have been fostered or adopted, it doesn't mean they can't grow up to be happy, healthy and successful. In Building Self-Esteem in Children Who Are Adopted or Fostered, Dr. Sue offers simple and practical advice to those supporting children aged 7+ to help them move beyond their trauma and build healthy self-esteem. The book explains how self-esteem develops, why adopted and fostered children often have low self-esteem and how this can affect them. Dr Sue describes proven techniques to help traumatized children gain confidence, showing how you can play a powerful role in your child's happiness. Full of useful advice and effective techniques, this book is ideal for foster and adoptive parents, social workers, counsellors and therapists, as well as other professionals working with children who are fostered or adopted. Don't Hug Your Mother: The fascinating true story 2nd Edition
by Fintan Murphy (Author), Gareth Murphy (Author) Don't Hug Your Mother takes you on a dramatic and compelling journey through Fintan and Gareth's tough childhood and alienation from their mother following their parents' marriage break-up. This heartbreaking but ultimately uplifting memoir describes how they grew up to confront evil, follow their hearts and meet their mother again after almost two decades of separation. Litigating Parental Alienation: Evaluating and Presenting an Effective Case in Court Attorney Ashish Joshi's experience in cases involving parental alienation, child enmeshment, and family violence has given us unique insight into the litigation tactics and strategies involved. Mr. Joshi has worked hard to help clients, the courts and fellow attorneys understand the intricacies of these complex cases. He has now written a book to help practitioners better understand parental alienation. Here's the link where you can purchase the book: https://www.americanbar.org/products/inv/book/409061453/ The new book provides practice pointers, real world examples and resources designed to help family law attorneys and their clients, the targeted parents and grandparents who are confronted with the difficult and emotional issues of parental alienation. The book highlights the importance of providing scientific evidence and using all the tools available to lawyers and judges to address parental alienation. It provides an overview of the phenomenon, including a discussion of existing case law, as well as advice on what a family law practitioner needs to know to be successful. The book is an invaluable resource for lawyers, Guardians ad Litem, family law judges, and others involved in child custody and child advocacy. The book helps legal professionals and targeted parents & grandparents address the following critical issues in litigating parental alienation cases:
Praise for the book: "This book provides practical tips for family law attorneys, from investigating allegations of parental alienation and domestic violence to admitting expert testimony to aid the court in its fact-finding...It is a resource that will make practitioners and court professionals better." -- Bridget Mary McCormack, Michigan Supreme Court Chief Justice "Joshi focuses on one of the most important issues that our legal system confronts: the rights of children. More broadly, he informs and guides trial lawyers whose cases involve emotion-laden issues, and the need for science-based evidence. That's pretty much all of us." -- Michael E. Tigar, Esteemed Trial Lawyer & Former ABA Litigation Section Chair When Parents Hurt: Compassionate Strategies When You and Your Grown Child Don't Get Along Paperback – August 26, 2008
by Joshua Coleman (Author) In When Parents Hurt, psychologist and parent Joshua Coleman, Ph.D., offers insight, empathy, and perspective to those who have lost the opportunity to be the parent they desperately wanted to be and who are mourning the loss of a harmonious relationship with their child. Through case examples and healing exercises, Dr. Coleman helps parents: Reduce anger, guilt, and shame
Dismantling Family Court Corruption: Why Taking The Kids Was Not Enough Paperback – March 26, 2020
by Maryann Petri (Author)
Cry Out For Justice: Poems of Truth Kindle Edition
by Maryann Petri (Author) While struggling under the oppression of the family court system and guiding others through similar adversity, Maryann Petri found that times of desperation can lead to joyfulness. During these moments, all she knew was to stay busy. Dealing with anxiety and depression, Maryann found herself confronting fear and anxiousness through writing poetry and riding horses. Maryann’s first book, Dismantling Family Court Corruption: Why Taking The Kids Was Not Enough, contains many of the poems she wrote while going through this adversity. They have proven to be so valuable to those reading her book for wisdom and guidance, that she was asked to publish a collection of her poetry, which is Cry Out For Justice: Poems of Truth.In order to help others further, Maryann also started a podcast titled SLAM THE GAVEL where guests share their experiences, wisdom and expertise in navigating the corruption of our court systems. It is available on most podcast platforms including Apple, Spotify, and iHeart. Boundaries of Steel: A Workbook for Managing and Recovering from Toxic Relationships Paperback – November 30, 2020
by Cathy Wilson, LPC, ACS (Author) Have you ever found yourself wondering whether a past or current relationship may be unhealthy? Have you encountered any red flags or patterns of behavior in a partner or yourself which left you feeling uncomfortable, but you weren't sure how to speak up or put your foot down? In these pages, you will learn to identify patterns of toxic behavior, the tools for healing and self-care, and above all, how to set and maintain boundaries that work for you. Whether you are still healing from a toxic relationship in the past, or are currently in a relationship where unhealthy qualities are present, let this workbook be a guide to navigating relationships in a healthy, informed, and empowered state of mind. And, if you are in Colorado, USA, and want to join others who are also dealing with the effects of a toxic relationship, click on the author's name and visit her website. We offer a counseling group where you can accelerate your healing and find support with others who deeply understand your situation and a counselor who facilitates these six week groups. |