These are reviews from some of our callers. Some may question the importance of these international seminar calls. Here you will see how these calls have helped others who go through this hell on earth called alienation. I do hope you will make these calls a priority for you and your children and grandchildren. You will be so thankful that you did.
This was truly a gift tonight whereas for the first time I truly came to a clear understanding as to what are concrete steps to deal with the alienated child.
I cried as a grandmother as I listened to their closing remarks. How much sadness I felt for the alienated children out there beyond my granddaughter.
It really helped give my husband and me perspective as to the shame and guilt felt by the alienated child.
I will keep you and others in my prayers . . . especially the children.
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There were several great takeaways for targeted parents from this call: Though there was a lot of theory discussion, there were practical takeaways as well!
- We learned about pure alienation cases vs. hybrid cases – hybrid is not where parents are considered it is simply the parents fighting. It is the combination of multiple factors (resilience of the child, developmental stage of the child, high level of hostility between parents which causes the child difficulty). In a pure case of alienation, there is a personality disorder; in a hybrid, there is no personality disorder . Each story is unique as to how it got to be where it is now.
- We learned about high levels of cortisol in these targeted parents. Long term impact of dealing with that level of cortisol on parent and child. Even after reunification, parents think “what if I had never gone down the road of reunification?” These targeted parents need to be cared for in a specific way, because if these parents aren’t cared for, how are the formerly alienated children going to get healthy? Most of the world does not understand the high level of trauma involved.
- Also, there has to be strong legal oversight of this therapy, to change the power dynamic. Once the court sees to a restoration of a power imbalance, there needs to be a specialized intervention. Many therapists are reluctant to become involved. Change will only come about if it is voluntary; in alienation cases, somebody (the court) has to compel the change. If there is no compliance, then it is impossible for reunification will reverse the splitting which has already taken place. There needs to be the “scaffolding” of a treatment room, beginning with a court order, because there has to be an element of compulsion to this multifactorial model for this dynamic change. If this change is not seen, then there need to be legal consequences.
- What do I need to do to get my child’s mind and love back? There are strategies – keeping the parent healthy, looking for support, recognizing how the child sees things, and usually only an alienation aware expert is able to identify the dynamic to the court and make the recommendations, which will restore the relationships. This will restore the authentic voice and heart of the child. And yes, this is possible.
Parents can be stripped of hope, optimism, and faith that they are good parents and good human beings. Even when I can’t get the courts to do what I need them to do, at one point, my children will reach out to me. Critical for me to stay healthy for that time when they do. Once the love emerges, the guilt and shame emerges from that child. As an alienated parent, I need to remind myself that I am not in touch with my child, FOR NOW.
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I am familiar with your website and support calls . I have been on the support calls for 3 years. This website provides the information/resources given by all the top experts in the field of PAS and support calls. It has given me hope to continue this mission to reunite with my alienated nieces and nephews when there has been no where to turn for help .
Knowing there are millions of others fighting for the same cause internationally , has given me hope to continue working toward finding knowledge and solutions to end this nightmare and injustice of PAS, and reunite with my alienated family . I am grateful for the opportunity to be on these calls and learn from the top experts in this field.
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"I have found these phone calls to be an incredible resource! As a professional with a very busy schedule, I find it difficult to stay abreast of all the new research and services related to Parental Alienation. Spending an hour or two absorbing the knowledge of leading experts in the field, has enriched my own understanding and increased the resources I have to offer the families with who I work. "
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I can’t say how grateful my husband and I are for all of the support and resources available from Family Access International. In the beginning of our journey we felt alone-like no one else had gone through estrangement with an adult child they were close to. We were years into our journey when we found Family Access International. The monthly support calls where professionals gave us help and hope, and being tied with others here were walking through the hell of alienation has helped us move forward. There is nothing else like hearing, “you too, it is not just me.” And the added input of varied professionals, has helped us grow and understand this sad road we are on. Thank you for all you have done and continue to do- for us all!
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I have participated in the phone calls with qualified experts regarding psycho pathology behavior in broken families. I feel these phone calls are a great response and resource for targeted parents all over the world. 👍🏽. U guys r Doing a great job 👌🏽.
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My daughters ages 12 and 14 are victims of severe alienation and I am in the fight of my life to help our family reunite. I am grateful for the resources and information that I have gained from being a part of the monthly phone calls with the experts in this field. The insight that I have gained is invaluable. It has been so useful in helping me explain to the players in my court case what PA is and why it needs to be handled differently. These calls give me hope...hope for better days ahead.
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I have only joined last months conference call for the first time. I found it easy to access and was kept informed of all the relevant information needed to access the call. The call was very informative and gave me insights into Parental Alienation I had not thought of, especially about self care whilst we are waiting for our children, as we can leave ourselves empty on many occasions.
I would urge any parent or professional to join in these calls which are free and offer us hope of a way out of this hell.
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I have participated in two of the monthly informational calls so far and I intend to join as many calls as I can in the future. Before I knew about Family Access and these calls, I felt hopeless. I am an alienated grandmother and I had been very close to my grandson until his father initiated the alienation campaign.
The first conference call I participated in was with Drs. Bone and Evans who spoke about what alienation is, what it does to the child and strategies in court. I immediately became empowered to read as much as I could about the subject. Knowledge is power. I helped my grandson’s counselor, who was not familiar with this syndrome, understand how important it was that alienation be recognized in my grandson so that we could approach the court again for a change in the parenting plan.
My daughter and I both benefited from the second conference call by the Woodalls. They gave us tools and reasons to take care of ourselves and be present in a positive way when we did get some time with my grandson.
I cannot thank Elaine enough for setting up the website and organizing the calls. It is a huge amount of work on her part. I am also incredibly grateful for the parental alienation specialists that are willing to donate their time to help us all understand the problems surrounding parental alienation and to offer ways to help our alienated children and ourselves.
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I cried as a grandmother as I listened to their closing remarks. How much sadness I felt for the alienated children out there beyond my granddaughter.
It really helped give my husband and me perspective as to the shame and guilt felt by the alienated child.
I will keep you and others in my prayers . . . especially the children.
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There were several great takeaways for targeted parents from this call: Though there was a lot of theory discussion, there were practical takeaways as well!
- We learned about pure alienation cases vs. hybrid cases – hybrid is not where parents are considered it is simply the parents fighting. It is the combination of multiple factors (resilience of the child, developmental stage of the child, high level of hostility between parents which causes the child difficulty). In a pure case of alienation, there is a personality disorder; in a hybrid, there is no personality disorder . Each story is unique as to how it got to be where it is now.
- We learned about high levels of cortisol in these targeted parents. Long term impact of dealing with that level of cortisol on parent and child. Even after reunification, parents think “what if I had never gone down the road of reunification?” These targeted parents need to be cared for in a specific way, because if these parents aren’t cared for, how are the formerly alienated children going to get healthy? Most of the world does not understand the high level of trauma involved.
- Also, there has to be strong legal oversight of this therapy, to change the power dynamic. Once the court sees to a restoration of a power imbalance, there needs to be a specialized intervention. Many therapists are reluctant to become involved. Change will only come about if it is voluntary; in alienation cases, somebody (the court) has to compel the change. If there is no compliance, then it is impossible for reunification will reverse the splitting which has already taken place. There needs to be the “scaffolding” of a treatment room, beginning with a court order, because there has to be an element of compulsion to this multifactorial model for this dynamic change. If this change is not seen, then there need to be legal consequences.
- What do I need to do to get my child’s mind and love back? There are strategies – keeping the parent healthy, looking for support, recognizing how the child sees things, and usually only an alienation aware expert is able to identify the dynamic to the court and make the recommendations, which will restore the relationships. This will restore the authentic voice and heart of the child. And yes, this is possible.
Parents can be stripped of hope, optimism, and faith that they are good parents and good human beings. Even when I can’t get the courts to do what I need them to do, at one point, my children will reach out to me. Critical for me to stay healthy for that time when they do. Once the love emerges, the guilt and shame emerges from that child. As an alienated parent, I need to remind myself that I am not in touch with my child, FOR NOW.
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I am familiar with your website and support calls . I have been on the support calls for 3 years. This website provides the information/resources given by all the top experts in the field of PAS and support calls. It has given me hope to continue this mission to reunite with my alienated nieces and nephews when there has been no where to turn for help .
Knowing there are millions of others fighting for the same cause internationally , has given me hope to continue working toward finding knowledge and solutions to end this nightmare and injustice of PAS, and reunite with my alienated family . I am grateful for the opportunity to be on these calls and learn from the top experts in this field.
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"I have found these phone calls to be an incredible resource! As a professional with a very busy schedule, I find it difficult to stay abreast of all the new research and services related to Parental Alienation. Spending an hour or two absorbing the knowledge of leading experts in the field, has enriched my own understanding and increased the resources I have to offer the families with who I work. "
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I can’t say how grateful my husband and I are for all of the support and resources available from Family Access International. In the beginning of our journey we felt alone-like no one else had gone through estrangement with an adult child they were close to. We were years into our journey when we found Family Access International. The monthly support calls where professionals gave us help and hope, and being tied with others here were walking through the hell of alienation has helped us move forward. There is nothing else like hearing, “you too, it is not just me.” And the added input of varied professionals, has helped us grow and understand this sad road we are on. Thank you for all you have done and continue to do- for us all!
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I have participated in the phone calls with qualified experts regarding psycho pathology behavior in broken families. I feel these phone calls are a great response and resource for targeted parents all over the world. 👍🏽. U guys r Doing a great job 👌🏽.
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My daughters ages 12 and 14 are victims of severe alienation and I am in the fight of my life to help our family reunite. I am grateful for the resources and information that I have gained from being a part of the monthly phone calls with the experts in this field. The insight that I have gained is invaluable. It has been so useful in helping me explain to the players in my court case what PA is and why it needs to be handled differently. These calls give me hope...hope for better days ahead.
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I have only joined last months conference call for the first time. I found it easy to access and was kept informed of all the relevant information needed to access the call. The call was very informative and gave me insights into Parental Alienation I had not thought of, especially about self care whilst we are waiting for our children, as we can leave ourselves empty on many occasions.
I would urge any parent or professional to join in these calls which are free and offer us hope of a way out of this hell.
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I have participated in two of the monthly informational calls so far and I intend to join as many calls as I can in the future. Before I knew about Family Access and these calls, I felt hopeless. I am an alienated grandmother and I had been very close to my grandson until his father initiated the alienation campaign.
The first conference call I participated in was with Drs. Bone and Evans who spoke about what alienation is, what it does to the child and strategies in court. I immediately became empowered to read as much as I could about the subject. Knowledge is power. I helped my grandson’s counselor, who was not familiar with this syndrome, understand how important it was that alienation be recognized in my grandson so that we could approach the court again for a change in the parenting plan.
My daughter and I both benefited from the second conference call by the Woodalls. They gave us tools and reasons to take care of ourselves and be present in a positive way when we did get some time with my grandson.
I cannot thank Elaine enough for setting up the website and organizing the calls. It is a huge amount of work on her part. I am also incredibly grateful for the parental alienation specialists that are willing to donate their time to help us all understand the problems surrounding parental alienation and to offer ways to help our alienated children and ourselves.
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I enjoyed both the last 2 seminars.
Both were very informative, logical, supportive.
In retrospect, everything you say in both seminars makes sense, because I lived the life of a targeted parent 15 years.
Listening to parental alienation analysis and explanation was like reliving my past decade and a half.
I only wish you had been around 15 years ago to help me. It would have saved me a great deal of frustration, heartache, money, and most important of all the loss of my 2 daughters, who are lost to me, I fear , forever. Educating the legal and social work systems is critical. The "useful idiots" in the system allowed my pathologic ex-wife to poison my daughters over the past 15 years, alienating and isolating my daughters from me.
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Both were very informative, logical, supportive.
In retrospect, everything you say in both seminars makes sense, because I lived the life of a targeted parent 15 years.
Listening to parental alienation analysis and explanation was like reliving my past decade and a half.
I only wish you had been around 15 years ago to help me. It would have saved me a great deal of frustration, heartache, money, and most important of all the loss of my 2 daughters, who are lost to me, I fear , forever. Educating the legal and social work systems is critical. The "useful idiots" in the system allowed my pathologic ex-wife to poison my daughters over the past 15 years, alienating and isolating my daughters from me.
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I have really enjoyed the conferences definitely learn ALOT of new things after I listen to them. I prefer specific strategies and skills to use v theory but that is just my preference. Other than that, I’ve become an avid attendee!
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Linda Gottlieb was absolutely great. She covered many things that we as PA victims experience, It was very helpful to hear her explanations on how to navigate and make choices with dealing with the legal and mental health professionals. She articulated well the weight that is put on our children who are used as pawns. One comment I would make is regarding her reference of written reference literature is because there are so many, it was difficult to jot down the names of the authors and books. Also not knowing how names are spelled. But overall extremely helpful and I am looking forward to next month's call!
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As a mother of three sons whose father has demanded they shun me or he will disown them, I pray for all the individuals who go through the journey of marrying and having children with a personality disordered parent. The presentation by Dr. Linda Gottlieb was stunningly accurate. Having your children ripped away from an alienated parent for no reason(I was awarded full custody but he took them out of town on every holiday for ten years and now it is a set pattern). It made no sense for me to go through the courts as he is a criminal lawyer who was secretly dating the Judge and ran up lawyer’s fees on me hundreds of thousands of dollars. In my case, their grandmother is also personality disordered and lives with father so they have two dominant people rewriting history in their minds. All I can do now is remind them weekly in texts “ I love you and nothing you do could ever stop me from loving you.” and pray they are free from his domination one day.
Keep up the outstanding program! I am very grateful to have been invited to join in on this free worldwide conference call and learn from your expertise.
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This is a thank you Elaine,for providing a cogent,highly professional and deeply informative seminar and speaker. Linda Gottlieb has impeccable credentials and was compassionate and sincere in sharing her knowledge. It was very helpful and gave me some new insights as well as determination. Gratitude to you, Elaine, for arranging the logistics and technical details for such a huge audience.
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After a dissection that carved through multi layers of fat and exposed root causes of alienation, she delved into her mental medicine cure, all in a sensible manner. After an overtime presentation, her commitment to the cause illuminated like a full moon by offering to take live audience questions…and continuing for an hour despite an awaiting early wake up call. Thanks for offering a ray of light to a very dark and sinister topic.
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‘Extremely insightful and cogent, both epistemology and pragmatically. The manner in which the information was organized and communicated facilitated educating the providers, which is otherwise a big limiting factor. Notes from the seminar went straight to them and the custodial attorney as they related to my child being destroyed by this horrible form of child exploitation and endangerment, and they and compelled actions. Highly recommended. - anonymous advanced and severe Alienated’.
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“I really enjoyed this month’s talk on family access. I thought the speaker’s approach was not only innovative but also comprehensive. I learned a great deal from listening. Thank you!”
---------------------------------------------------------- The calls are life enhancing for many reasons. The expertise, wisdom, experience, knowledge, research and sensitivity of the speakers is one very important factor. Their preparation and organization of their presentations is an indication of the amount of hard work they put into their presentations and they all seem to be blessed with great speaking voices that enhance their talks. In addition we feel we are a part of a support network. We feel a part of a community who understands us and our feelings as only those with the same experience can. We go through a wide variety of emotions. We find ourselves crying, happy, hopeful, mournful and then optimistic. We thank and bless all who are a part of this family access movement.At every session we walk away with a great deal more than when we arrived. ---------------------------------------------------------- Elaine, You are such a caring, giving, beautiful person. Thank you - so much for all you do. I don't know how you keep going & don't get burnt out - GOD Bless you. and I'm praying for you also to become reunited with all of your loved ones. The only positive I can say about our tragic situation is that if there weren't all of the evil alienators in the world - then all of us suffering throughout the world wouldn't feel your light & love uniting and empowering us throughout the world. You have given so many of us hope and helped us to not feel so alone, and you are loved by so many of us. Thank you always- for everything you do. Laura C in CT. ````````````````````````````````````````````````````````` |
I cannot thank you guys enough for putting these calls together! There’s such a wealth of information here!
I’m so glad I found you folks! ---------------------------------------------------------- Thank you! Thank you for all of your efforts on raising awareness of parental alienation and educating people on the effects of alienating behaviors on children and their families. Sunday nights' call was the first time for me listening in. I came away from the call with a better understanding into what has been been a puzzling and heart-wrenching experience this past year. About a year ago my ex and I officially separated, and the nightmare ensued. I have watched the loving bond with my children deteriorate into rejection, distrust and (what feels like) hate due to the blatant lies and manipulation of their Dad, who I now understand has a severe personality disorder. Thank you for providing resources and hope to those of us who feel there is nowhere else to turn. ---------------------------------------------------------- |
Linda Gottlieb clearly “gets it”. She, both anectdotally and more importantly with numerous cited research studies demonstrates the reality of the emotional abuse that is parental alienation. Truly an expert in her field. Doesn’t sugar coat it and takes a clinical approach. We need all family court judges, state legislators, family counselors, and family law attorneys to listen to one of her webcasts or attend one of her training classes! Thousands of children would be better off for it, and much profound sadness and anguish spared for alienated parents.
---------------------------------------------------------- Dr.Amy Baker was extremely knowledgeable and explained the factors behind alienation very clear. She also allowed me to understand the Alienated child. I felt it was very informative and could relate it to Grandparent Alienation. I shared my notes with my hubby. I appreciate all your hard work
---------------------------------------------------------- The seminar call by Dr. Baker was fantastic! She gave us a lot of practical indicators for alienation and how to distinguish the affects of alienation from other types of abuse. The suggestions on getting and presenting documentation for custody cases were outstanding. Few teleconferences have been as rich in valuable information. ---------------------------------------------------------- |